How to understand the serious intentions of a Turkish man. The character of a Turkish man

AND . Today they come into play - tanned, white-toothed, dark-eyed and seductive Turkish men. Masters of compliments, hot-eye snipers, and bed game champions. But the "fairy tales of Scheherazade" are often followed by bitter tears of repentance. Living with these men can be very difficult. So if you are going to fly to a Turkish resort, read our instructions carefully!

Turkish men are insanely romantic, sometimes even too much! They know how to beautifully look after, are not shy in expressing their feelings and are able to turn the head of any beauty.

Remember that Turkey is a Muslim country. Therefore, your sexuality should be available only to him and no one else. For other men, you can look beautiful, elegant, but not sexy. So no cleavage or miniskirts.

"Namus" (honor) is one of the key concepts of the Turkish mentality. A Turkish man is simply obliged to protect the honor of the women of his family, especially his wife (bride, girlfriend), and it will be easier for him to do this if you behave decently.

It is very important for a Turk what his neighbors, relatives and friends say. To please him even more, you must behave in a way that will please those whom your man respects and loves.

Turkish men treat women like property. And if he has already won your heart, he will consider you his own.

Know that Turkish men are very (!) jealous and extremely quick-tempered. Don't look here, don't look there, don't deal with it, don't buy it. And the most popular expression: "This is very indecent"! Well? Are you ready for this? Think.

Remember, an innocent smile in response to a compliment can make him think that you are a frivolous person! So be extremely careful!

Many of them consider themselves leaders in relationships and like to be obeyed unquestioningly. If this suits you and you are ready to place all the responsibility on his male shoulders, then go ahead!

The fame of the loving nature of the “hot Turkish guys” seems to have gone around the world and secured their image of incorrigible don Juan. And there are reasons for that.

On the first date, be natural, be a little flirtatious, play blonde (but in moderation), and don’t lean on alcohol. Turks don't like drunk women.

As a rule, Turkish men do not like smart and purposeful women. They prefer that a woman not have a special intellect or carefully hide it in the presence of a man, but rather do household chores and keep a hearth.

The main plus of Turkish men is that they are very fond of children: both their own and others. Such caring fathers are now worth their weight in gold!

Never, you hear, never show him your independence! You don’t need to offer to pay for yourself in a cafe or restaurant (even if money falls out of your wallet). So you can not only offend him, but also put him on his neck!

Turks do not share domestic duties between male and female Turks, and many of them are excellent cooks! And besides, they enjoy spending their free time with their families.

Contrary to various myths and horror stories, polygamy in Turkey is prohibited by law. You can even get jailed for it!

Remember: all Turks love football! And be prepared that your next date will be in a restaurant where Turkish fans drink beer.

Be discreet and don't let him kiss you right away. And of course, no sex on the day of meeting, otherwise he will lose interest in you immediately after the finale.

Remember, if the Turk said no, then no amount of persuasion will help change his decision. But in any case, he will appreciate your ability to defend your position. Just don't bring it to conflict.

And do not forget that with any man you should not be too trusting. Good luck to you!

There is no dispute about tastes and colors. Turkish proverb

Turkey, like a patchwork quilt, is bright and multifaceted. For thousands of years, the culture of this country has absorbed the customs of many peoples of the Mediterranean, the Middle East, the Caucasus, Eastern Europe and Central Asia.

Modern Turkey is a tolerant state where guests are welcome. But, like any other people, the Turks are pleased when visitors know their traditions. If they see that you are observing local etiquette, be sure that the Turks will show you the height of reverence and respect.

Peace in the country, peace in the world

Turkey is a Muslim country. 96% of the population is Muslim. However, Turkey is the first Muslim country where religion is separated from the state.

However, it is worth remembering that Islam has a huge impact on the culture and daily life of the locals. Many rules of etiquette are dictated by the peculiarities of this religion.

If in large cities there are many progressive Europeanized youth (girls do not wear headscarves, couples can walk hand in hand, etc.), then in the Turkish outback, morals are much stricter.

Turks are sensitive to their history. And the main figure in its modern segment is Mustafa Ataturk.

He made Turkey what it is now, and the Turks are grateful to him for that. To say that Ataturk is revered is to say nothing. Speaking negatively about this political leader is disrespectful to the Turkish people.

There are also two topics that it is better not to touch upon in dealing with the Turks - the Kurds and Cyprus. In addition, do not call Istanbul Constantinople and confuse the capital of the state (the main city of Turkey now is Ankara).

Taaagil!

Arriving at a Turkish resort, we rarely take care to learn the local phrases of greeting and farewell. But in vain! Turks are very pleased when they hear "Merhaba" from a foreigner.

“Merhaba” (“merhaba” (sometimes “x” is not pronounced)) is a common greeting, translated as “Hello!”.

You can also often hear "Selam" ("selyam"), which means "Hello!" and used in informal settings.

When leaving, they say “Iyi günler” (“iyi gunler”), which literally translates as “Good afternoon!”, But when parting, it means “All the best!”. You can also say goodbye by saying:

• Güle güle ("güle güle") - Goodbye (the rest say).
• Hoşça kal ("hoshcha kal") - Happy to stay (says the outgoing one).
• Goruüşürüz ("geruschuruz") - See you.

As for non-verbal communication, men (!), if they are close friends or relatives, can hug, kiss each other on the cheek when they meet. Stranger men greet each other with handshakes (they always give their right hand).

If a woman gives a handshake at a meeting, it looks strange. Because of this, tourists often get into trouble. For a Turk, sometimes, this gesture means that a woman is ready to get to know each other very closely.

Turkish etiquette strictly regulates the relationship between people of different generations. Turks revere the elderly. When addressing elders (if these are not relatives or close friends), it is customary to add a respectful suffix to the name - “bey” (“master”) or “khanym” (“mistress”).

Relatives of the older generation are greeted by kissing the hand (back of the hand) and applying it to the forehead.

To the question "How are you?" (“Nasılsiniz” - “Nasylsynyz”) most often respond positively - it is not customary to complain about your worries.

But be sure to use the "magic" words:

• Teşekkürler (“tesheküler”) or teşekkür ederim (“teshekur ederim”) - thank you.
• Lütfen ("Lutfen") - please (request).
• Bir şey değil ("Bir schey deil") - please (gratitude).

Sign language

Turks use unusual body language for Europeans. When visiting this country, be careful with your usual gestures - for local residents, they may have a different meaning.

So, turning the head to the right or left (our “no” gesture) does not mean denial at all. Most often, this is how the Turks show misunderstanding - "I don't know what you're talking about."

A single nod of the head, like ours, means “Yes”, but the same gesture, accompanied by a click of the tongue, is already a firm “No”. In general, clicking the tongue in Turkish culture is a sign of denial, disapproval of something.

Snapping fingers, on the other hand, demonstrates a positive attitude. At the same time, it is impossible to replace this gesture with the usual thumbs up for us - in Turkey, this gesture is considered ugly.

To politely decline an offer or thank you for a favor in body language, place your hand on your chest.

On the street

The rules of conduct on the streets of Turkish cities and villages are dictated mainly by Islam. The more provincial the area, the stricter the morals and the more careful one should behave in public places.

As such, there is no dress code, but remember:

you can not approach mosques and other religious sites in shorts, short skirts, sweaters and dresses with bare shoulders.

Many tourists believe that beach fashion (swimsuits, pareos) can be transferred to the streets of the city. This is not true. A promenade in a bathing suit or only shorts (without a top) looks at least strange.

As for behavior on the beach, here again it is worth remembering that the majority of Turks are Muslims. On the territory of many hotels it is not forbidden to sunbathe topless. But still, by local standards, it is vulgar.

If, while walking around the city, you suddenly want to take a picture of a Turkish man, you should ask him for permission; but photographing Turkish women (especially if they wear a headscarf) is not recommended at all.

Islam leaves its mark on the attitude towards alcohol. A foreigner can buy alcohol in a store (only in Ramadan the shelves with it are closed), but you should not drink it in a public place. Also, Turks rarely eat on the go.

By the way, during the holy month of Ramadan for Muslims, when believers abstain from food, water and smoking from sunrise to sunset, you should not eat or smoke in their presence. This will be your sign of respect, which will not go unnoticed.

In transport

In large Turkish cities (Istanbul, Ankara), special electronic cards are used to pay for public transport.

If you run out of money on it, don't worry - the locals are very responsive. They often help visitors by paying for their travel with their card.

At the same time, it is unlikely that it will be possible to thank them in cash in return - they will not take it. If the Turks help, then from the heart.

For a European, the Turkish transport system may seem like hell. (We are talking about large cities.) Drivers practically do not use turn signals - be careful! But they love to honk their horns. This is such a way of "communication". If we honk to warn of danger, then in Turkey - for any reason (green does not light up for a long time, a friend drove by, someone is driving too slowly in front, etc., etc.).

When landing in the subway or tram - a real flea market. The fact is that the Turks do not wait for the arrivals to leave the car, they simply climb forward, pushing everyone aside.

On a bus or dolmush (Turkish "minibuses"), if there is a choice of seats, do not sit next to a woman you do not know if you are a man. This is not accepted. And for girls, on the contrary, it is better to choose a place next to the girls.

Away

Hospitality (misafirperverlik) is an important element of Turkish culture. Especially in the provinces. The guest is always offered all the best, regardless of the wealth of the family.

It is difficult to refuse an invitation to visit (and it is better not to do this) - it is always furnished with a number of elegant pretexts. If you really cannot accept it, then it is better to refer to employment - the Turks will understand this reason.

As for gifts for the owners of the house, in Turkey there is such a saying: "We ate sweetly - we talked sweetly." It can be taken literally - bring sweets as a gift. A souvenir from your country will also be an excellent present.

Did you see a bunch of shoes in the entrance or in front of the entrance to the house? Do not wonder! This is a sure sign that the Turks live here. In Turkey, it is not customary to take off your shoes in the house (Turkish housewives keep cleanliness), shoes are left outside the threshold.

Slippers will be provided inside. In Turkish families, as a rule, there are special ones - “guest families”. Don't like walking in someone else's slippers? Bring your own. In Turkey, this act will be absolutely normal.

Turkish houses are usually divided into guest and private areas. Do not try to look behind closed doors and do not ask for a tour of the house - this is impolite.

Also, in some conservative families, it is not customary to start a meal without the permission of the elder and even smoke without his approval. By the way, many Turks smoke.

The visit is unlikely to last less than two hours. You will not only be given tea or coffee to drink, but also deliciously fed. But staying late is not recommended.

At the table

It is worth distinguishing between a home meal and lunch at a restaurant.

In the first case, traditional Turkish dinner, as a rule, takes place in the presence of all family members. At the same time, they eat at a low table, sitting "in Turkish" on the floor on pillows or mats. The feet are hidden under the table.

Dishes (they are usually three or more) are placed on a large tray and served on the table. From this tray, you can put food on your plate (with your hands or a common spoon). But you need to do this only with your right hand and in no case choose a better piece. This is the height of disrespect for the owners of the house.

On holidays, the national aniseed raki vodka (aka raki, aka raki) is often put on the table. Having made a toast, they clink only the bottoms of the glasses, and putting the vessel on the table, you need to think about those who could not be present with you.

At the table, it is considered uncivilized to talk without the permission of the elder, as well as open your mouth wide (for example, to use a toothpick).

If you are offered to try some dish (the hostess' signature dolma), you should not refuse, even if you are not hungry. Otherwise, you can offend the owners, and the questions “Not tasty?”, “Don’t like it?” - cannot be avoided. You don't have to finish it, but you should try.

As for lunch in a restaurant, here, most often, you can find European style - ordinary tables, chairs, serving.

Turks, like us, love tea. It is drunk many times a day. This is done from special glass pear-shaped glasses without a handle. This shape allows you to keep the drink hot longer and admire its beautiful rich color.

More than tea, the Turks like, perhaps, only sweet. They eat sweets whenever they want: before dinner, after dinner, before tea, after tea. But never with tea. If you start eating, for example, Turkish delight with tea, they will look at you askance. Also, do not order tea at the same time as the main course (instead of soda to wash down the meal).

It is customary to leave a tip in cafes and other establishments.

Business Etiquette

Turkish business culture is dualistic: on the one hand, the Turks try to do everything in a European way (business suits, business cards, handshakes), on the other hand, they cannot move away from their roots.

In dealing with business partners, personal relationships play an important role. It is customary to strengthen them at negotiations, which are often informal.

Lunch or dinner is always paid by the host. You should not ask the amount of the bill, as well as tell it to your Turkish guests - this is a violation of etiquette.

Turkish businessmen are not always distinguished by German punctuality and straightforwardness. If possible, avoid strict deadlines and do not say categorically “No”. In Turkey, a polite refusal is a soft refusal.

At the beginning of a business meeting, it is customary to give compliments (for example, to a country, culture or company) and give souvenirs. During negotiations, Turkish partners can easily be distracted by the phone. Do not take it personally - this is just one of the features of Turkish.

In general, the Turks in business are emphatically polite, and expect this in return.

Bilmemek ayıp değil, sormamak öğrenmemek ayıp (It's shameful not to know - it's shameful not to learn. Turkish proverb)

Now you know how to behave in Turkey. Have something to add? Welcome to the comments.

Content:

Turkey is a paradise for foreign tourists. Good service and reasonable prices make Russian women want to visit this country again and again. But the shores of the sunny peninsula give memories not only of a pleasant stay, but also of local temperamental men. It's hard to resist the beauty of these burning and tanned brunettes. But it's one thing to spin a holiday romance, and quite another - build a serious relationship with a Turk.

How to please a Turkish man?

However, not all Turks have a bad opinion of foreigners. Many of them dream of meeting a good Russian girl. But in order to, you need to show all your best qualities and hide the shortcomings as much as possible. Remember that Turkish men are only having fun with easily accessible young ladies.

Of great importance is where the Turkish guy was born and what kind of upbringing he has. Turkey is a unique country located on the verge of European and Asian civilizations. Residents of large cities are strongly influenced by Western culture, so they can be considered modern people. It is better to look for just such a Turkish man. But if your friend comes from a small town or village in the east of the country, you will have a hard time. In the Turkish outback, people are still faithful to the old strict customs.

If you want to please a Turkish man, do not dress too provocatively, do not open your chest and legs above the knee. Of course, the exception is the beach, where everyone relaxes in swimsuits. For such an "outfit" the Turk will not condemn you, but when you go on a date with him, dress more decently. Even at the beginning of the acquaintance, it is important to show yourself on the good side, as well as to find out the true intentions of the gentleman. After all, many Turks are simply looking for beautiful mistresses.

Turkish men in relationships

There is a big gap between the rich and the poor in Turkey, but every Turk tries to appear richer than he really is. In addition, Muslim men look older than their years. For example, a high school graduate may look like a senior student, and a young specialist after university can look like a respectable groom. This fact is often used by the Turks to seduce foreign girls.

Turkish men they know how to look after beautifully, they like to give gifts, treat them with sweets. In Asia, relations are dominated by a man, but if we compare Turkey with other Muslim countries, it is certainly the most democratic. No one will force you to wear a veil, but get ready for the fact that a guy will accompany you everywhere, and in the future - a husband. Of course, no one will forbid a girl to go shopping or walk around the city herself, but in Turkey it is not customary for women to visit restaurants or entertainment centers without their men. Therefore, you will have to change some habits.

Are Turks Jealous?? Highly! But if you do not give rise to suspicion, your man will worry less. It is important not to stumble upon a family despot, because it is in the genes of the Turks to dominate a woman. Therefore, study your chosen one well before tying the knot. Keep in mind that the Turks are very persistent. If a Turkish man sets out to win your favor, he will definitely achieve this. But getting rid of the courtship of an annoying gentleman will be extremely difficult. Sometimes Russian girls have to literally run away from a sunny country.

Turkish family

Your boyfriend must be a bachelor. This is another important condition for a happy relationship with a Turkish man. Many married Turks promise fabulous love and carefree family life to naive foreign women. But by "family life" they mean the maintenance of a woman, and not a legal marriage with her. Turks rarely get divorced, because it is ... unprofitable. The fact is that, according to the law, a Turkish man is obliged to pay alimony not only for children, but also for an unemployed ex-wife. And most of the women in Turkey do not work.

For a beautiful Russian mistress, a Turk can even buy a separate apartment. He will visit from time to time to satisfy his romantic and passionate aspirations. And of course, he will provide the woman with money. Many Russian girls are quite satisfied with such relationships.

But back to legal marriage. Turkish husband- a real provider and protector. But part of his income will go to help relatives. Turks love children especially girls. In Turkey, boys are more attached to their mothers, and daughters are more attached to their fathers. If it comes to divorce, the children will be given to the mother. But if the husband proves that she behaved unworthily, the court will take his side. After the divorce, the Turk will help the children, even if they leave with their mother to another country. Turkish men cherish family traditions, to refuse a child is low and shameful for them.

Every nationality has its own characteristics. This does not prevent a huge number of Russian girls and Turkish men from finding each other, falling in love, creating families and raising bilingual children.

But mixed marriage is often an extra reason for conflicts associated, most often, with a misunderstanding of culture, traditions and language. Let's try to understand Turkish men, especially since February 14 is a great occasion to talk about love and relationships.

Family comes first

The Turks are very attached to the family, ready to take care, provide, which makes them enviable contenders for the role of husbands. But there is also the other side of the coin. Firstly, for a Turk, his family, relatives, even not very close ones, are of great importance, so that joint holidays and the arrival of guests can resemble the Tatar-Mongol invasion. Secondly, the influence of parents on the son's personal life can be so great that if the Turkish mother does not approve of the bride, especially a foreigner, you can forget about a serious relationship. And it doesn't matter how old the son is - 20 or 40. True, this is usually typical of more religious families.

Sign up for a free Turkish class

Patriotism

“Ne mutlu türkum diyene!” (“What a blessing to call yourself a Turk!”). This capacious phrase spoken by Ataturk combines all the love and pride of any Turk for his country and nation. The Turkish flag, the portrait of Ataturk and other symbols of the Turkish Republic are sacred. And if you decide to connect your life with a Turk, you will also need to accept his homeland. With all the pluses and minuses, although there are obviously more of the latter.

Conservatism

The Turks are principled in their passions. They are sensitive to change and innovation. This manifests itself both in business and in personal life. It is very difficult to get a Turk to try a new suspicious dish, like sushi or herring under a fur coat. But for some reason almost every second Turk loves borscht. If you want to win the heart of a Turkish man, learn how to cook borscht.

Emotionality

Many note that Turkish men, despite their masculine appearance, are quite vulnerable, sensitive, romantic, passionate and childishly touchy. The Turk is unlikely to object to watching a good melodrama. But their emotions can change as dramatically as the weather in the south in winter, and this can often take you by surprise. So a sunny hot day is abruptly replaced by a cold wind and a night thunderstorm. Turks easily make compliments, declare their love, call for marriage, promise stars and the moon from the sky, that they can also quickly change their mind and dissolve into oblivion.

Polygamy

Perhaps, deep down, every Turk, more than any other man, considers himself Sultan Suleiman and dreams of a harem. They can often be caught red-handed, both in real and virtual life. Turks, even married ones, are active users of dating sites and social networks, able to work for two or even three "fronts" without feeling the slightest remorse. But God forbid if someone starts flirting with his chosen one.

Jealousy

Turkish men are often so jealous that they can forbid their girlfriend or wife to work, monitor the chastity of clothes, control calls and correspondence, do not allow them to leave somewhere without him or return home late. But the phrase “Benim eşim türk” (“My husband is a Turk”) acts like a magic spell on pickup trucks who want to get acquainted.

Practicality

A rare Turk understands without explanation why you need to give a girl flowers when there is beauty around. The only exception is Valentine's Day (Sevgililer günü). And even then it may not be a stylish bouquet, but a houseplant. The Turks are practical guys, so things that are useful in the household can also act as a gift. But not a single Turk will allow a woman to pay for herself in a cafe or restaurant. This is a matter of honor.

Love for purity

Despite common stereotypes, the Turks are distinguished by their special cleanliness. Leaves an imprint and religion. This can reach the point of disgust, and the Turks will not go to eat in a cafe where there is dirt in the kitchen and on the tables. Perfect cleanliness should reign in the Turkish house. True, this duty falls mainly on the shoulders of the wife, the keeper of the hearth.

Football

Turks are very fond of football, and the division into fans of a particular club is quite strict. And if your Turkish chosen one is a fan of Besiktas, do not even think about saying that you like Fenerbahce much more than black and white striped footballers. Turks like to watch football with friends in a bar. They react to each goal with their inherent emotionality.

Public opinion

Judgment from neighbors, friends, family, colleagues, passers-by, accompanied by clattering of the tongue, shaking the head, gossip and gossip is a phenomenon that Turks prefer to avoid. They try to maintain good relations with everyone, believing that "a bad world is better than a good quarrel." It is also not very common for Turks to show their feelings openly in public, so you can see openly kissing couples, except perhaps in big cities or at the peak of the season in resorts or nightclubs.

Turkish language

Many Turks easily speak different foreign languages, including Russian, but still, their native Turkish language is closer to them, and for many Turkish words and expressions it is simply difficult to find analogues. So knowledge of Turkish is a great advantage in the eyes of a Turkish man.

Treat yourself or your loved one! In honor of the holiday of all lovers, Turkish language courses "Dialogue" give 14% discount on the online course "Effective Turkish" ()!

You can send the link to your Turkish boyfriend or husband - it will be a great hint for a practical gift. And you will tighten up the language, and you will please the Turkish man by declaring the seriousness of your intentions to finally learn his native language.

GLOSSARY:

Aşk ("ashk") - love

Aile ("aile") - family

Sevgililer günü ("sevgeliler gunu") - Valentine's Day

Eş ("ash") - spouse

Temiz ("temiz") - pure

Kıskançlık ("kyskanchlyk") - jealousy

Was the article helpful?