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How the Germans dress: The appearance of the Germans for different occasions, do they like to dress brightly and make up in everyday life, to work and study ...?

There are certain stereotypes about Germans and their appearance. However, those who have visited Germany and spent some time in this country understand that in fact such an opinion is slightly far-fetched. Let's figure out what is a myth and what is true about the appearance of the inhabitants of Germany.

• Foreigners think that German Frau do not pay much attention to their appearance, namely style and fashion. For them, the most important thing is that the clothes are comfortable and comfortable. In real life, this statement is nothing more than a myth. The Germans are very careful about how they look. They just pay attention to other parameters than, for example, Russians. So, it is important for them to dress in accordance, namely: clothes should correspond to such factors as season, time of day, event, age, social status, profession, etc. In Germany there is a clear division of things into day/evening. At the same time, if you come to a party in casual clothes, others do not focus on it as much as if you were in evening dress during the day.
• Age category and place in society also play a huge role in choosing clothes. Here the rule is as follows: the older the German, the better clothes he should acquire for himself. As for the social status, everything is also quite clear here. For example, students and pupils choose jeans, shirts or sweatshirts as the best option. They usually wear sneakers. Many people prefer to wear trendy scarves.

It is worth noting that young people continue to wear branded sneakers even after graduating from educational institutions. However, it is important to understand here that these shoes have a certain symbolic meaning. Converse and a backpack are a hallmark of the student body, even if the person wearing them for 30.

• Their usual clothes are short shorts, colorful bright T-shirts or T-shirts, jeans, blazers with three-quarter sleeves. But skirts are not so popular among young German women. The older the girl gets, the more she seeks to change her style.
• Generally speaking about the style of women's clothing in Germany, you can describe it like this: "standard set +". Most of the things from the wardrobe of a typical German woman are in casual style, or a combination of casual and sports. If you need to go out, as they say, to people, the basic wardrobe can be supplemented with an interesting accessory. For special occasions, of course, in the wardrobe of a German woman there is a special section with evening dresses.

In Germany, you almost never see a woman dressed vulgarly or provocatively. The cut of clothes is mostly strict, modest, the colors are neutral, not attracting too much attention. Perhaps, in this country, the beige color is more popular than anywhere else. However, it is worth noting that the tone of clothing is always “to face” the young lady. For example, flashy combinations of black and red you rarely see on the street.

In a store, a typical German will pay attention, first of all, to 2 characteristics of a thing: its cost and its quality. Preference, of course, is given to things made from natural materials, even if an ordinary scarf made of natural silk has a price tag with the inscription "70 euros".

So, here is a list of things that are most popular in Germany. They can be found in the wardrobe of any German:

Scarf- every German has, as a rule, a whole collection of these accessories, differing in color, material, width, etc .;

Chinos- this element of the wardrobe is considered the most popular among German women;

Ballet shoes- shoes that Germans prefer to wear because of their convenience.

As for the texture of clothes, - wrinkled knitted fabrics are in priority. You can also recognize a German among foreigners by the layering of his attire: jeans or leather trousers, a shirt, a sweater, a jacket - all this can be worn on a person at the same time.

• The next category is employees of offices, banking structures, etc. Business style reigns here. A German woman will never wear clothes made from knitwear to work in such an organization. The priority is fitted shirts and blouses, trousers, office-length skirts. No tight pants, turtlenecks, etc.! Exclusively business stylish combinations of things.

Indigenous German women are characterized by light blond, straw shades of hair. If you have met a woman with such an incredibly beautiful natural color, you should know - natural hair! But this does not mean at all that German women do not use the services of hairdressers for painting. Like true women, they also experiment with their appearance, but choose shades and colors that tend to be natural. Although you can also see women with multi-colored hair on the streets of Germany (pink, bright red, green ...) ...

A visit to beauty salons for a resident of Germany is an obligatory event held with enviable regularity. However, they pay more attention to wellness procedures, rather than decorative ones. The Germans will not get up an hour earlier than expected to design their hair or curl their curls. Therefore, makeup is extremely basic. Nail polish - neutral shades, without decorative elements - rhinestones, sparkles, etc. Maybe for this reason, even at solemn ceremonies, the appearance of a German woman often looks somewhat casual.

As for the figure , curvaceous forms are not typical for real German women. This is due to the peculiarities of the nation, as well as the fact that the bulk of the German population goes in for sports. Cycling, jogging, going to sports clubs are for both women and men.

The most terrible enemy of the Germans - shoes with high heels. And this is connected not only with stone sidewalks, on which it is simply impossible to move on stilettos, but also with the same question of conformity. A woman who appears in the daytime in high heels is likely to cause disapproving exclamations from others who consider her vulgar. In order not to attract unnecessary looks, women and girls prefer to wear ballet flats even to the workplace, although with a strict skirt or dress pants they don't match very well.

In companies and at parties the fair sex in Germany also look discreet, even everyday: jeans, T-shirts, ballet flats. Occasionally you can meet a girl in high heels, however, this will also look within the bounds of decency.

But looking at German men, you can’t Don't be surprised by their stylish appearance. We can safely say that the representatives of the stronger sex in Germany look better than their companions. Elegant shirts, jackets, trendy trousers, a scarf is a must! By the way, there are no less shops and boutiques with men's clothing in German cities than women's.

Summarizing " stereotypes about germans“It should be noted that in Berlin - the capital of Germany and other large cities, the situation with fashion is a little different. Here burghers are not afraid to look bold, bright and independent. But in smaller cities it's the other way around.

1. Doner kebab is your salvation at three in the morning. Used as a hangover preventative. And you are absolutely sure that this is a purely German invention. Integration of immigrants into German culture does not work!

2. Efficiency is your middle name.

Working abroad in an international company? Almost certainly all your colleagues hate you. A purebred German solves all his problems in the shortest possible time and plunges the boss into despair, demanding new tasks. Serious attempts to work slower fail - German efficiency is in your genes.

3. Elevators are a place of silence.

There is an unwritten rule in Germany: you don't look at other people in the elevator, and you certainly don't interact with them. Even if you are riding in an elevator with friends, there is usually an awkward pause that no one dares to break.

4. You never, ever step on lawns.

Even if you're walking in one of the few parks that doesn't have a no-tread sign, you literally feel like a criminal just walking on the grass.

5. There is only one kind of right bread.

Real bread is dark, with a crispy crust and soft inside, it's obvious. White bread, whether it be a baguette or ciabatta, is not at all the same. When you travel the world or move abroad, there is nothing more desirable than traditional German pastries.

6. You are every party host's worst nightmare.

If you are invited to a party at 7pm in Spain, for example, then as a normal German you can probably be found walking around the block at 6.50pm because you don't want to arrive too early. Then the door bell at 6.55 pm. One hundred percent the host of the party will not open the door immediately - he is still in the shower and has not even begun to prepare the house for the party.

7. The expression "about seven" makes you shudder.

It's either 7:00 or 7:05 or 7:10. For you, "about seven" is just an excuse for non-punctual people who can't manage their lives. Usually you are just angry that you yourself can not be somewhere "about seven." You will always be there at 6:55. Even though you sent a sincere apology text that you will probably be late, you will still arrive at the place at 6:55.

8. You have strong opinions about beer.

True, it varies greatly depending on the region of birth and somewhere a bit like a religion. While in Cologne they prefer to drink Kölsch in 0.2l glasses, the inhabitants of Bremen drink Pils at once in 0.33l. The Bavarians would not trade their Helles in a liter mug for anything else. Such a trip can lead to serious internal conflicts: when someone from Cologne tries to order a beer in Munich, he will probably be kicked out of the bar faster than the Bavarian can say “Lederhosen”.

9. Three beers instead of schnitzel.

Beer in Germany is considered a food, not an alcoholic beverage. A Bavarian proverb says that the nutritional value of 3 beers is equal to a full meal. Having a drink or two during your lunch break and then going back to work comes naturally to you.

10. You constantly complain about the German service.

You really are convinced that there is no worse customer service than in Germany. However, once you visit, for example, Hungary or France, and when you return, you are ready to kiss every cashier who smiled slightly at you, just out of gratitude for their friendliness.

11. Table manners are very important to your parents.

“Don't talk with your mouth full! Sit up straight! Get your elbows off the table!” It's nice to have lunch with German parents, isn't it?

12. You are a trash separation maniac.

You have a lot of trash cans, but you could use an extra one: organic waste, paper, plastic, white glass, green glass, brown glass, regular trash…. You find it perfectly normal to wash empty yogurt packages before throwing them in a certain trash can.

13. You are still angry that you had to pay for your studies.

University education used to be free until some Länder decided to introduce tuition fees of up to €500 per semester. After several years of public protests, it was cancelled. However, those few years have cost you one and a half to two thousand euros, which you would rather spend on beer and a flat-screen TV.

14. At least one of your student friends is 33 years old.

No, he is not teaching or pursuing a Ph.D. He spends time trying to find the right direction in life. To do this, he changed majors from archeology to philosophy, from business studies to sinology. Finally, I found it - studying the history of art of Uzbekistan in the 9th century. Unfortunately, with the introduction of international bachelor's and master's degrees in Germany, the requirements for passing certain standards have become tougher, and this lifestyle is becoming less and less common.

15. You follow the rules of the road.

You will never cross the street at a red traffic light. Never. Even on foot, at night, even if not a single car is visible within a two-block radius. The risk of losing your driver's license is too great if you are caught violating as a pedestrian. Unfortunately, when you are in other countries, you expect other people to have the same respect for red traffic lights. That's how you almost killed 5 people during a recent trip to Southeast Asia.

16. Insurance gives you an absolute sense of security.

Life insurance, fire insurance, natural disaster insurance, disability insurance, supplementary health insurance, liability insurance, maintenance insurance, accident insurance…admit it, you have at least half of them. You feel so well protected with them that you don't mind spending half your paycheck on things that will probably never happen. God saves man, who save himself.

17. Polite small talk is not for you.

If you work with people of other nationalities, then the conversation during work might be something like this: “Hey, how are you?” "Good." “How is the weekend?” "What do you want? I dont have time for this!" The last phrase, as a rule, you say to yourself. It's not that you're a sociopath, it's just that you think your time is too valuable to be wasted on pleasantries. We wouldn't have made it to our economic miracle with idle chatter, after all.

18. National pride makes you feel uncomfortable.

The Germans are still traumatized by their history. No matter what country you are in, publicly displayed national flags or open displays of patriotism seem strange. And the only time you don't get disapproving looks when you mount a German flag on your balcony is during the World Cup.

19. A lake or a pond is a heavenly place of your childhood.

Every German city has at least one body of water. Since then, the smell of sunscreen has made you nostalgic for those unforgettable days of carefree fun with friends and ice cream by the water.

20. You watch "The 90th Birthday, or Dinner for One" every new year.

This is a British sketch about an old lady celebrating her birthday. Unfortunately, all her friends are already dead. Luckily, the old lady is not the smartest, so she doesn't realize that the butler is playing all of her friends, and as a result, she's completely exhausted. What is the connection with the new year? No idea. However, you don't care that some German traditions don't make sense.

21. You are definitely bilingual.

You speak your regional dialect and classical German. Considering that there are more than 20 different dialects in Germany, Hoch Deutsch helps to communicate with fellow Germans from other federal states. Otherwise, a Bavarian will not be able to communicate with a Frieslander without an interpreter. After all, these dialects actually belong to two different branches of the German language family.

22. You've never heard "speed limit" and "highway" in the same sentence.

Yes, for the most part there is no speed limit on German motorways. Unfortunately, you hardly ever enjoy this freedom, because there will always be some idiot who is dragging at a speed of 120 km / h, blocking the left lane.

23. You are well aware that there is no such thing as a typical German.

Different beers, different Christmas traditions, you even speak different languages! Only for a couple of weeks every two years the whole country becomes united thanks to the eternal magic of football championships.

Generalized information obtained as a result of observations and conclusions of women who came to Germany from abroad - the heroines of short novels, as well as those who are in long-term relationships and married to Germans. Pretty subjective, but still...

Heine and Schiller, Beethoven and Liszt, Mendelssohn and Friedrich - these major representatives of German romanticism in poetry, philosophy, music and fine arts had a significant impact on their descendants. What does it really feel like to date a modern German?

– A German will most likely never flirt with you like an Italian. And will not be so frankly romantic courtship, like a Frenchman. Romance in Germany is more subtle, and appears gradually. At 20, I would have thought that dating a German was boring. At the age of 30, it became interesting, - says an American who met with a German for nine and a half years.

Call me! - I'll call...

“If a German says he will call, he calls – even the next day,” the American continues. The Germans have rules for almost everything. Be careful, he may do this not necessarily because he likes you, but because he promised. He may just dial your number to let you know that he doesn't like you and doesn't want to see you again. But he said he would call, so he would call. This has happened to dozens of my friends.

Accuracy and honesty

Those who use the rather dubious rule “If he loves, wait” in life should be prepared for the fact that this romantic formula may not work in Germany.

- If you arrange to meet at a restaurant at 20:00, he will most likely not keep you waiting, and will be there at 19:59. On the other hand, he expects the same from you. So it pays to arrive on time. If he says that he will be there, you don’t have to explain to the waiter that the date is only an hour late,” says the lady, who at one time suffered from her Russian habit of defiantly being late anywhere.

– If a German says “I love you”, he most likely means it. When he says he sees a future with you, that means he is. On the other hand, if things are not going in the right direction, he will also clearly explain the reason for the breakup. He'll tell you why he doesn't like you, or why things don't work out. He can also honestly say whether he likes, for example, your gift. This is one of the most difficult lessons that I had to learn in Germany, - admits a woman who found her family happiness in Germany.

Planning

Most Germans love to travel and have enough days off for that. It is possible that he will want to include you in these travel plans. He might even plan a trip like my partner did, or ask you to do something based on common interests. It makes no sense to wait for a call on Thursday to receive an invitation to spend a joint Friday evening. Most German men never notify a woman of a date one day in advance. This happens at least a few days in advance, as your life is supposed to be as planned as his, says a former Estonian who met her future husband in one of the so-called hobby groups.

Vacation fee

A Ukrainian woman who met her German partner during a vacation broke up with him because of his extreme frugality: “A German can expect you to pay your share of the vacation. In addition, he is probably saving the accumulated money for your joint future. Or a future with someone else, depending on the circumstances. The Germans generally like to save money.

Someone prefers the practical side to romance: “If you live in Germany, he will help you navigate the German bureaucracy. Doesn't sound very romantic. But any expats who have tried to get a work/marriage visa, insurance, or file a tax return know how difficult it can be. You will be eternally grateful for all the countless phone calls and visits to Ausländerbehörde, the office for foreigners, that he will make on your behalf.”

Care and attention

Many expat women find German men cold. The Germans, on the other hand, prefer to consider themselves reserved.

– Once you get to know him better, you will see his warm and funny side. Yes, Germans can be funny. He doesn't show it to anyone, so consider yourself special if he shows it to you. German men need time. For example, one day my partner came home for lunch for the first time in 12 years because he was bored and thought that I might be lonely,” recalls one lady from Kharkov.

Another emigrant speaks in defense of German tenderness:
- When I had knee surgery, he spent 14 hours in the hospital. He took me to castles every weekend when I moved to Germany and didn't have any friends yet. I moved to Munich, because I thought that it would be easier for me to get settled there. German men will show you that they care about you in every way. You just have to be quite open and patient.

German men and romance: everything you need to know updated: September 15, 2019 by: Marco Bayanov

Those who are already married to Germans and disagree with something - I fully admit, because we all have our own opinion and our own experience.

Let's start...

1. Diligence

The qualities inherent in some Russian men, I noticed only in East Germany. And so, the men here not only help with cleaning, but also cook. They will not pass by something dirty - they will clean it. They won't budge. They iron the shirts themselves or take them to the laundry. Do not wrinkle the nose when necessary to wash the dishes.

2. Economy and predictability

Yes, the Germans are not inclined to overwhelm girls with gifts that they cannot afford to impress them. No one will fluff their tail in front of their friends and throw dust in their eyes. It's just not in the German character. And if this happens, then either the girl needs to be wary, and she is dealing with a spender, or she is lucky and she has found a rich man who does not need to think about money. But even without signs of attention will not do. They will just be more restrained, maybe less romantic, but more practical. And in the future it will be a stable man who, after the wedding, will do the same as before, which is important.

In general, German couples are built on the principle of solidarity with each other. Everything is done together. From cleaning to paying bills.

3. Respect for a woman as a person

It often happens that women earn more in families than men. It happens that in such cases a man works only partially to take care of children. Well, or just pays more taxes, and a woman - less. Such decisions are made solely for the mutual good and the good of the family. Women who are dependent on men, sitting at home, you rarely meet here. Well, only if with 4-5 children.

4. Emotion control and smart decision making

Often a German man makes a decision about a wedding simply on the basis of a cold calculation - "we have been together for 635 days, we have been living together for 467, so it's time for us to get married, and quite rationally" (a little exaggerated, but very similar to the truth).

Few people in this country are overwhelmed with feelings and emotions so much as to "throw themselves into the pool with their heads." Everyone here purposefully thinks about his life and makes a decision based on an analysis of the situation. Sometimes, however, men only need to choose “yes” or “no” for marriage, because in Germany it’s not only not new, but almost the norm when a girl proposes. That's it.

5. Taking care of your health and appearance

They also take care of their appearance. They use cosmetics for face and body care, monitor their haircut, the condition and ironing of clothes. The average German man can hardly be called a fashionista, but he knows how to present himself. All this, combined with their natural data (there are sad exceptions), makes Russian girls groan and gasp when they arrive in Germany. Yes, many men here are beautiful and, moreover, they are not spoiled by crowds of beauties, like ours.

6. Honesty and integrity

Do not be surprised - my husband sometimes behaves as if he is being watched around the clock by the German authorities - a ticket is bought even if it is just one unfortunate stop, the garbage is sorted flawlessly, and if something was forgotten at the checkout, he returns and pays extra.

I think if he acts dishonestly somewhere, his conscience will bite him to death. This kind of honesty disarms me. Sometimes it infuriates, of course, but in essence - I don’t see anything wrong with that. Except that few Germans can be as crazy as we are. This is often not enough.

But on the other hand, thanks to the German sense of duty, the ability to answer for their words, sincerity, reliability and decency, they give their life partner this indescribable feeling of confidence in a partner and in the future, so warming a woman's heart.

7. Punctuality

8. Thirst for knowledge

9. Find happiness in small things

10. Moderation

February 14 is Valentine's Day. DW found out how often in Germany they confess their love and what will the German choose: porn or football?

The Germans do not give vent to feelings, often watch porn films and easily change partners - is this really so? The results of sociological surveys on this topic were quite unexpected.

Germans in search of a soul mate

Eyes, voice, face and height - these parameters are first of all paid attention to by German women when they meet. Men are attracted to girls by a beautiful face, eyes, long hair and voice. The harmonious body proportions of the Germans are only in fifth place. Another thing is professions.

Doctors in Germany are considered the sexiest

If you are a doctor, then success in Germany is guaranteed: according to a study by the ElitePartner dating site, representatives of this particular profession are considered the sexiest. Among the most unattractive for Germans are tax consultants, politicians and office workers.

Twice as much

According to a survey conducted by the medical journal Deutsches Ärzteblatt, a German man has an average of ten partners in his bed in his lifetime. Women are exactly twice as inferior: they sleep with only five men. But this difference should not be surprising: more than 2,500 Germans over the age of 14 participated in a 2017 study, and many of them embellished their achievements a little, psychologists say.

Arne Dekker, an employee of the Hamburg University Hospital, is sure that this is how the respondents are trying to match their gender roles. “Many men feel more attractive if they have had many partners, while for women the opposite is true,” the psychologist explained in an interview with the dpa news agency.

Rare love confessions

Despite so many partners, love confessions can be heard extremely rarely. In their entire lives, the Germans say the phrase "I love you" to only four women, the Germans confessed their love to an average of only three men. The results of a survey by the sociological institute YouGov confirm the stereotype about the restraint of the inhabitants of Germany: only 37 percent of respondents love overshadows other feelings and thoughts.

tell friends

Germans rarely confess their love, and even less often report it on Facebook: 12 percent of those surveyed consider it necessary to talk about their marital status on social networks. According to YouGov, about a third of Facebook users in Germany have not changed their status for a long time and do not care about it at all. So don't rely on social media alone.

Marriages and divorces

Marriages in Germany last an average of 15 years. Women are more likely to initiate a divorce: they usually decide to do this at the age of 43, the Federal Statistical Office (Statistisches Bundesamt) reported in 2016. German men file for divorce at the age of 46.

Porn in Germany

Many consider Germany to be the birthplace of pornography, but the Germans themselves do not watch films of this genre as often as in other countries. At the beginning of 2018, the world's largest portal with porn content Pornhub published site visit statistics: Germany was in seventh place, behind the USA, Great Britain, India, Canada, Japan and France. In addition, football is much more important for Germans than porn: in 2013, during the Champions League final, views of Pornhub in Germany fell by 40 percent. Still: two German teams performed at once in the final - Borussia Dortmund and Bayern Munich.

Everyone under their own blanket

Most German couples sleep under different blankets. This does not mean at all that feelings have cooled down, it’s just that it’s more comfortable for partners to fall asleep under their own blanket. This phenomenon, which shocks many foreigners, is jokingly called in Germany the “two-ply politics” (Zwei-Decken-Politik).