Mom in a large family: an interview with a mother of many children, Svetlana Kutsevalova. Orthodox parish of the church of St. Nicholas of Myra in the city of Slyudyanka Interview with a mother of many children on Mother's Day

- Having many children - why do people decide on this?

I never thought that I would be a woman with many children.

As a child, I did not have a large family, my mother was engaged in my upbringing. Mom worked a lot, I remember I was often lonely and, of course, I dreamed of “getting” myself a brother or sister. Probably, this loneliness left its mark, because already in my girlish dreams I planned to have at least two children (necessarily a boy and a girl).

Two children fit perfectly into my idea of ​​a full-fledged family, but I could not imagine that there would be four children.

They are all my favorites and I love them so much! My eldest daughter's name is Lenochka, she is already 24 years old, she is quite large and independent, now she is starting (I hope) her own family.

The son's name is Vanyushka, he turned 18 in April. At the moment, he is engaged in the fact that he is trying to defend my rights to independence from me.

The "little" girls' names are Masha and Nastya. Masha is 7 years old, she is in the first grade, Nastyulya is 4 years old, she has “housekeeping” on her.

- Is it easy or difficult to be a large family in Voronezh?

It is not easy to be a large family in any city, I mean not only the presence of financial difficulties. Voronezh, unfortunately, is no exception. The family budget has to be planned very carefully so that there is enough for everything. In addition, every child wants parental attention, and this is the time. Well, everyday housekeeping, of course, brings its share of trouble.

Although we moved to the suburbs a few years ago, we now have our own house by the river. The house is old, but we love it very much. And we also have a real bathhouse and a small garden, the work in which pleases only me so far. But I am patiently waiting for the younger "gardeners" to grow up.

How is a typical family day going?

Yes, just like in ordinary families, there are just a little more worries.

If there is, we cook, so “bucket”, but after all, what assistants I have are growing up. They will already wash the dishes and help prepare dinner: they cut vegetables like real chefs. Mashunya brings such order in her room, the elders envy.

It happens that guests come to all the children at once (especially in summer) - then the house becomes a little noisy, but very fun. I like this fuss, because I dreamed of a big cheerful family.

- How do the children themselves feel about the fact that there are a lot of them?

Children, in my opinion, do not attach any importance to this and perceive our "collective farm" as absolutely normal. Younger girls, for example, adore their older sister, she is an indisputable authority for them, imitate her in everything: they copy her walk, manner of dressing and talking. And she, in turn, always drags them a whole bag of gifts, my husband and I are very pleased with her care for little sisters.

The elders also live quite amicably among themselves, the son often comes to Lena with his secrets, which he does not want to entrust to me.

The main thing in a large family is “one for all and all for one”, then the family will always live in love and joy. Therefore, my husband and I try to raise our children in such a way that there are as few grounds for quarrels as possible: for example, greed, injustice in relationships, any kind of division are strictly suppressed in our family, but, on the contrary, the slightest concern for each other is very welcome.

We, as parents, are worried about financial difficulties, and, of course, we would not want one of the children to regret that he was from a large family due to the lack of some material benefits.

- They say it is difficult with one child, with two it is easier, and with three or more it is already quite simple. This is true?

It's not about the number of children, but about the attitude of parents to children. We believe that the child should be given more freedom, but always with a reasonable amount of control, then they grow up quite independent and responsible. For example, since the age of ten, Vanyushka has been taking care of his younger sisters: first Marusya, and then Nastenka, and we always boldly trusted him with girls, knowing that he would feed them and look after them.

The younger ones can already be a serious help in cleaning the house. And, of course, there are difficulties! There are enough of them with one, but here there are four - yes, each with its own character, so everything happens: both small quarrels and big conflicts. My husband and I always try to resolve them fairly, for example, the title of junior never gave us privileges. A respectful attitude towards everyone at once, but it also carries responsibility. Even a toddler has to follow their own little rules.

- Having many children - what is more in this, happiness or problems?

How many problems, so much happiness, even more. You know how happy I am when we get together as a family. I would like to hope that the children also have a good time together.

The biggest concern of a mother of many children: the more children, the more experiences for them, and they are so different and there are so many of them, the head is spinning. Vanya, for example, is now in a transitional age, it is often difficult to find a common language, of course, I worry about how he will manage his life.

Lena is “building” her family, she wants everything to turn out well for her.

With little ones, there are fewer problems, the main concern is to feed and kiss on time.

- Does the state help you?

The state helps only low-income large families. It so happened that our family is a little short of this “honorary” title, and we have to rely on our own strength.

Of course, assistance should be sufficient, but if necessary, the state should help all large families, then there will be much more of them in our country.

Of course, we do not starve, but, for example, it is very difficult to go on vacation or go somewhere with the whole family to relax on the weekend, because even more than a thousand rubles will have to be spent on movie tickets! There is still an opinion among the people: "Than to produce poverty, it is better to bring up one in abundance." Therefore, many parents do not even dare to have two children, let alone three or more.

But, in turn, I want to say: no amount of money, dear daddies and mommies, can replace the feeling of that happiness when four pairs of your favorite children's arms hug you at the same time.

Galina Mikhailovna Chizhik is a mother of many children, a pretty woman and a good conversationalist. She has a sense of humor, without unnecessary coquetry, she answers all questions. It is interesting to communicate with her, and some of the facts given by her are simply shocking. Like, for example, life situations with letters. But first things first.

- Galina Mikhailovna, the issue of the newspaper will be published on the eve of Mother's Day, so the question is immediately - how many children do you have?

Four of my sons, two adopted, in the end six, but all mine.

- Some kind of complex arithmetic, the result confuses me, so explain yourself what's what.

Everything is very simple. Valery, Vitaly, Seryozha and Dima are my sons, and Alexander and Pavel are the sons of my second husband. They were 11 and 9 years old when they were left without a mother. I became their mother, and they became my children.

- Are you a Luninchanka?

I am from the Minsk region. She studied at the Smilovichi Agricultural College. In 1969, she ended up in Luninets due to the fact that she married a guy from the village of Flerovo. I knew him for two days, and on the third we were already married.

- What a twist! How so? It's very prompt.

In fact, we had a year and a half correspondence with him. The girls of that time had such a fashion, to write to the soldiers. So I wrote a letter to the army, to the first person I met, as they say. He answered, a correspondence began. He even sent me a photo. Didn't like it, tore up the card and threw it away. He then wrote, they say, return the photo, but there is nothing to return. After his demobilization from the army, they met and signed on the third day of a real acquaintance. In reality, it turned out better than in that photo.

- Galina Mikhailovna, were you happy in that marriage?

Of course. I loved him, how not to love - we have four sons. The husband dreamed of a daughter. When I was pregnant with my third, they told me that, most likely, there would be a girl, but fate decreed otherwise. We lived like everyone else at that time. They worked and raised children. I worked first on a collective farm as a livestock specialist. And after the first maternity leave, she got a job at the KBO. She was a knitter, then a master, then a warehouse manager. She worked there for 30 years. Her husband, Adam Nikolaevich, worked as an electrician, for a long time he was a master of industrial training at the 146th school. He passed away 26 years ago. He was sick a lot, he had kidney problems, everything was enough for him and me ...

In addition to your husband’s illness, what difficulties did you have to face in life, it was probably difficult to raise boys?

I have never had any problems with boys. The guys grew up obedient, everyone knew the range of their duties around the house, they were not excellent students at school, but everyone studied well. We had everything "sorted out". Now my daughters-in-law are “ladies” for such husbands. I taught them everything, they can do everything, they even do “seasoning”. But seriously, they are like daughters to me and are grateful that I raised such sons. We had a problem with housing. The line for the apartment moved slowly. We were waiting for the fourth, and we have a living space of 15 square meters. We went to the district executive committee, but all to no avail. And then I dared to write a letter to Valentina Tereshkova. The world's first female cosmonaut was then vice-president of the Women's International Democratic Federation, a member of the World Peace Council and a member of the Central Committee of the CPSU.

Blimey! And how did Tereshkova react to your letter, did it even reach the addressee, did Valentina Tereshkova answer you?

Got it. Moreover, Tereshkova's response was sent to the Luninets District Executive Committee and we were immediately allocated a four-room apartment.

- Galina Mikhailovna, who did your children become?

Valera graduated from a military school in Kaliningrad, Vitaly entered the Brest Polytechnic, but dropped out. Then he studied to be an agronomist, but he does not work in his specialty - he serves in a military unit. Seryozha is a musician, he served in Kaliningrad, in the orchestra of the Baltic Fleet, then graduated from a university with a degree in veterinary medicine. Dmitry graduated from the military academy in Minsk. Sasha and Pavel studied at the Luninets schools, received professions, and are working.

- Are your sons friendly, do they maintain relations with each other?

Well, they are brothers. Both ours and the adoptive ones are friends, there is not much difference between them and no one says that they are ours, but these are the adoptive ones. They all talk to each other like family. Support each other, help in everything. They constantly call me, they come on vacation, they bring children for vacation. I already have six grandchildren.

- Galina Mikhailovna, did you have any influence on your guys in choosing life partners?

In no case. I was put before the fact, that's all. I did not choose my daughters-in-law, but I respected their choice, so I accepted them as my daughters.

- How did your personal life develop after the death of your husband?

I was alone for eight years, but then I met one man. This is Nikolai Aleksandrovich Lazarevich. We have been with him for 18 years.

- What do you do in your free time, they say that pensioners have a lot of it?

It is not true. There is almost no time left. We have a dacha in Yazhevki. There is a large farm there - piglets, turkeys, two dogs, two cats ... Everyone needs to be given attention, everyone needs to be taken care of. So you don't get bored.

- Besides housework, what do you like to do?

I am a very active person, I communicate a lot with people - both live and virtually. I mastered the computer, I communicate with friends in social networks. I even go to the pool sometimes. She learned to swim at the age of 60. In general, I enjoy life, no matter what. Sometimes I visit sanatoriums. I work a lot, I move a lot. Life is Beautiful.

- Do you have a dream?

Once they dreamed of a daughter, then of an apartment. Now I want everyone to be healthy - children, daughters-in-law, grandchildren ...

Galina Mikhailovna, you are a wonderful wife, mother and grandmother. We congratulate you on the holiday - Mother's Day! Let your life be as active and eventful, bring only joy and pleasure. What can you say to women, mothers?

Do not be afraid to give birth, children are wonderful. And I wish you all good health, and to receive as many positive emotions from life as possible.

With God, life is easier and more joyful. The mother of many children Angelina Valeryevna Burdeynaya is convinced of this, with whom the correspondent of the newspaper Lukoyanovskaya Pravda F. Kedyarkina spoke.

“Two years ago, the family of Angelina Valerievna Burdeina settled in the village of Kudeyarovo, Lukoyanovsky District. All family members became parishioners of the temple in honor of All Saints. A large family, and even a churched one, is still a rare phenomenon in our district, which cannot but be interested. Father Alexy Silin suggested that I get to know this family a long time ago. And here the occasion arrived in time - Mother's Day.

And here I am in the Bourdein's house. Children of different ages run out of all the doors towards the hallway. The hostess introduces them by name. And for a closer acquaintance, we are together in a spacious living room with soft sofas, a piano, a computer desk and a bookcase. In the red corner I notice a family iconostasis with a lamp. It's time for the evening - the whole family, except for the father, is assembled, the children have finished their classes at school and in circles. The eldest son Alexander came home on a visit from the city of Sarov, where he serves on a contract basis in a paramilitary guard.

Mom begins a leisurely story about how and where their large family was born. I am sure that his bright moments will forever remain in the memory of children. Very many of us, having lived to old age, later lament with the deepest regret that we were not curious, were not interested in our roots, did not ask our parents about the past. It always seems to us that we still have time, that there is a lot of time ahead.

Angelina Valerievna comes from a military family. Since childhood, the only daughter, together with her parents, got used to moving from garrison to garrison. After the military father retired, the family settled in Kazakhstan, where the girl graduated from the Pedagogical Institute, the Faculty of Foreign Languages. She got married there and gave birth to her first child, Sasha. Thanks to him, together with her husband, she began to attend an Orthodox church, where her son studied at Sunday school. Years later, life with God according to Christian rules became a way of life for their young family. After some time, the couple got married.

Angelina Valerievna inherited from her father housing in the Astrakhan region determined the further choice of place of residence. In Akhtubinsk, they had four more children - Maria, Anastasia, Milica and Peter.

“Unfortunately, it became unbearable to live there because of the heat,” shares Angelina Valeryevna, “it became impossible to endure the almost round-the-clock air temperature above plus fifty degrees. And my husband and I decided to move to central Russia with its temperate climate. They chose the Lukoyanovsky district, the village of Atingeevo. At first, everything suited us there: beautiful nature, rich in gifts, a rural school, necessary social institutions. But gradually it all began to curl up and close. And my husband and I realized the futility of life there, especially for children. And four years ago we bought a house in Kudeyarov. My husband works as a driver on long-distance flights, and I take care of the house and children. Our Varya was born here - the sixth child in the family.

- How do you manage to endure all these moves, changes with such a large family, - I ask Angelina Valerievna.

“With God’s help,” she replies. – We, people, make decisions to change some conditions of our lives and ask the Lord for help. I won’t say that every day, but quite often we make morning and evening rules with the whole family, regularly visit the temple, ask the priest for blessings. And if something still fails to do as planned, we do not despair.

But at the moment, - Angelina continues her story, - everything is going well. While my husband is on long-haul flights, I run the household with the help of my children. To support the family budget, we keep three goats, piglets, and feathered animals. We set a watch for everyone. Children from early childhood know how to do a lot of housework.

The day in the Burdein family is full of deeds and worries. In the morning, four children go to school, which is not far from home - a ten-minute walk. There is no need now to wake up the children at six in the morning, as was the case in Atingeevo, and go through the snowy, uncleaned streets to the bus to get to classes at the Shandrovskaya school. Their performance has improved, all children study at "4" and "5".

Everyone has time for their favorite activities. Up to three or four hours, having done their homework under the supervision of their mother, the guys, accompanied by her, go to circles and sections. Eighth grader Masha is engaged in a school photo circle. She has already decided on the choice of profession - she will be a doctor.

“She likes to devote her free time to reading,” her mother tells about her. “There are no crime literature and women's romance novels in our house. From childhood, children are taught to read useful for the soul and mind: adventures, fairy tales, everyday Orthodox stories, natural science publications.

Very often, the younger ones sit around Masha, and she reads aloud to them. The eldest daughter from time to time replaces her mother in the kitchen. She loves to cook unusual dishes for the whole family according to her own recipes, although she sometimes looks into recipe books.

Seventh-grader Nastya is only a year younger than Maria. He studies without triples, and after classes he hurries to the art school, where he attends the art department for the second year. “Nastya loves to draw since childhood,” explains Angelina Valerievna, “she has mastered computer graphics well.” Sister Milica, a 4th grade student, also practices playing the piano here. Thanks to her passion, music often sounds in the Bourdein's house now - an instrument was bought for a girl for homework.

Second-grader Peter chose a purely masculine occupation for himself - the combat sambo section at the Kolos sports and recreation center. “To be strong and protect the girls,” he explains his choice.

The youngest, Varvara, also tries to keep up with her brothers and sisters. She is about five years old, but she already has her favorite books. And since this autumn, she began to attend the figure skating section at the Kolos sports and recreation center.

But the older Alexander's classes and plans for the future are already more serious and thorough. He discusses them with his parents. But most often with my mother, who is always at home, next to me. Alexander is already quite an adult, an accomplished person. He graduated from two technical colleges, is studying in absentia as a lawyer, and plans to find a job in the internal affairs bodies.
After serving in the army, the young man remained to serve under the contract. He is preparing to start a family and get housing as a contract soldier. The younger sisters and brother are waiting with curiosity when the brother will bring his chosen one to their family, how they will make friends with her.

All life processes in this large and friendly family are calmly, hardworking and with great love for God and loved ones, Mom leads. Her warm, bright house is never empty. It is filled with useful works that develop the soul and body. Friends often visit her children. Guests are always welcome here, for everyone there is a kind word, tasty treats and interesting activities.”

Text and photo: Faina Kedyarkina.

On the eve of Mother's Day, Natatnik visited Tatyana Yukhnovich from Brest. The mother of four children (Marina, 16, Zhenya and Anton, 13 each, Alisa, 11) and the owner of a successful hairdressing business, spoke about her choice of path, her family and charity.

About children

I fought with my brother since childhood. I looked at other families where there is one child or three: one has no one to fight with, and those with many children are friendly. It's so cool! So I dreamed of one or three. It turned out four. I wanted the kids to be friends. When they were little, they hugged and kissed endlessly. Twins and 15 minutes without each other could not. Now they don’t get along very well, this is the age when you need to prove your point and defend the territory. They have competition all the time. This year, she took the twins to different schools and shifts so that they would have time to get bored.

The eldest Marina, after the 9th grade, masters the profession - she learns to cook ( smiling). She was not at all friendly with the kitchen, although our grandmother and father are cooks by education. She is also interested in my work, she spent the whole summer in the salon. She can already do manicures and eyelash extensions. Now, due to studies, there is not much time, but he manages to take clients.

But Anton does not burn with hairdressing, but if they ask for help, he agrees. He never misses a single one of my color workshops. Simultaneously with me solves examination tests. 80-90 percent correct. Watching instructional videos. He likes to delve into the molecules more, he takes it deeper, he is attracted by the chemistry and physics of color.

Zhenya has been cutting hair since she was 10 years old. Do not kick out of the salon. Competitions, repairs, equipment - everything must be consistent with it. He actively defends his position: “You don’t know how to do it! I learned from the best masters!” Everything that he earns, he invests in his education, goes to master classes. Now she is preparing to go to Moscow for Russian Barber Week. This is the largest event in Russia for men's hairdressers. He did not pass the age of the contestants, but the organizers invited him as a teacher. Recently won the international competition of correspondence photographs "Starry time". Took first place in the VIP category, among masters, winners of competitions.

The younger Alice also dreams of being a hairdresser. For three years she lived with her grandmother in Russia, studied at an experimental school. She looks more like Zhenya than Anton. We joke that it was necessary to be born with him in a pair. They saw each other only on vacation, but even at a distance they have the same facial expressions, expressions, intonations. Because of the similarities among themselves, they fought for the championship, so we decided to divide them by time. Now Alice has returned to study in Brest. Zhenya has already grown up and looks at her like an older brother - with older eyes.

About difficulties

With twins, the first three months were especially difficult. They slept for 15 minutes and cried constantly. Breastfeeding, they just hung on her. It was only later that I realized that they were not eating enough. I fed the mixture and - a miracle, they began to sleep normally!

I remember a case: once I was walking with Marina and a stroller, bruises under my eyes, 55 kilograms of weight. I didn't have the strength, zombies. A blooming grandmother with cheerful twins went to the meeting. I look at her and ask: “When will it be easier?” She smiles and replies, “Never!” ( laughs) I was waiting to be encouraged: to wait a little more ... It became easier after two years. Before that it was different. One on the toilet, the other on the potty, finishes his business and puts the pot on my head, shouting “Hat!” They could comb my hair with a brush. I was going to the store somehow, put them on and put them on the site for a minute. I quickly put on my clothes, go out ... My children with a neighbor's cat eat food from a bowl. At the age of two, they learned to more or less serve themselves, stopped screaming and eating at night.

We often take my nephews for the weekend, they are 2, 3 and 4 years old. I look at them and understand that I’m ready for more ... My children are already adults, they help a lot. I smell babies, my brain turns off, maternal feelings wake up ... Let me at least babysit! ( smiling)

Work takes a lot of time, but I spend my weekends at home. I forbid children to come to work. When I'm with clients, I can't be distracted. In order to pay more attention to children, she decided to leave working with clients. I will train and manage staff. I go to school a lot. I do not need to ask my husband for leave: we broke up with the father of the children, but we maintain friendly relations. If necessary, he replaces me for a couple of days, my grandmother helps.

You have to define your personal space. I explain: “Children, I need time to study, for my development. If you jump on my head, we will hang on the same level. Let's agree not to interfere with each other. Play, mind your own business. Whoever wants to stay listen to the seminar together.”

Children earn symbolic money. Don't spend on toys. They buy something they need. This is a kind of self-learning. I started working at the age of 14-15. When I wanted to become a hairdresser after the 9th grade, my dad gave me a choice: either college - and buy an apartment, car, or college - and deprive me of money. She left school ... For many years it was difficult to communicate with him. She worked to pay for her studies. There wasn't enough money for everything. Mom quietly helped in difficult times. I am grateful to my parents for such a “school”: I learned how to calculate forces and plan a budget.

About charity

Since 2005, every month and a half I go to the Kobrin orphanage to cut children's hair. The first time, I remember, there were 186 children, they cut their hair all day. It was hard morally: she cut her hair and sobbed ... Over the years, there were fewer pupils, but there were also fewer healthy ones. Now there are about 30 children, almost all with disabilities. When new children from the orphanage arrive, their names are written on their hands, they do not know them. But they know how to dress, put on shoes, serve themselves. At three years old, they can calmly make a bed, but they do not talk. And how else can it be with a shortage of staff and time for individual work? I wish there were volunteers who could talk to these children. We come to Kobrin regularly and see the dynamics. At first they are afraid and sit on the hands of the teachers during the haircut. Then they open up.

Sometimes I post on my pages thanks to clients for their help. Comments begin ... Someone writes: “Well done”, and someone: “What are you doing? They get used to handouts.” Agree. The orphanage life ends, the pupils are released into the people with nothing. They are not adapted to life, they begin to understand that there will be no gifts, but they still want to. I am in favor of teaching them how to earn, not receive gifts. When we come to get a haircut, we say that we need to work for the treat - to sit neatly and not move. Almost all children are hyperactive and sitting still is hard work for them. The kids are trying hard smiling). They know they'll earn a treat. The director says that when we leave, everyone wants to be hairdressers for a couple of weeks. There is a boy who every time tells that he will become a hairdresser and will cut his beloved girl's hair beautifully. He always asks what they brought, and asks himself to give something to Masha. There was a girl who was afraid of sounds. I cut her hair alone, on my knees on the landing, stroking her cheek with a soft brush. She calmed down, and it was possible to work. Now she is already sitting quietly.

It is sad that no one will adopt these children in Belarus. People choose children like horses: diseases, pedigree... Without seeing the child! If you decide to take a child, then look first of all “to your liking”. What will he be like, healthy or sick ... A sick child can be born in any family. What is, such and it is necessary to love.

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In the continuation of the column "Interviews with mothers of many children" today we are visiting Natalia Spekhova. Natalya - well journalist and writer at the behest of the heart. Teacher, psychologist, by education and state of mind. And, of course, a mother of many children.

—Natalya, is your having many children conscious or did it happen by itself?

- I always wanted three children and with such a difference in age, and then everything is on its own.

How many children do you have in your family?

We have 2 sons (12 and 4) and a daughter (9 years old).

At what age did you become a mother of many children?

The third child was born when I was 33 years old. Significant age.

Do older children help you?

“We all help each other. One cooks, the second washes the dishes right away, the third cleans up the excess. Anyone can wash the dishes, the floor, do the laundry. Everyone except the youngest cooks well)). The eldest son can easily bake a cake or a pie.

How do your children communicate: as a team, in pairs, by age, by gender?

— All together, again. If the younger rushes around the apartment, like the leader of the redskins, the elders join in - emotions must be thrown out - and for a while we enjoy hooting and stomping. Then everything calms down, the steam is released. The elder, as a rule, takes out boxes with the designer, the younger ones sit down, and creative silence sets in.

Do you develop children according to their abilities and talents or all together?

- I am a supporter of the development of individual abilities. If the elder, for example, dreams of becoming a design engineer, then let him go to robotics and the like. If my daughter sees herself as a stylist, then I will not force her to cram notes.

Of course, there are moments when we are directed in one direction: these are trips to museums, concerts, exhibitions, etc. And that's okay. And this is important.

Do you have any home furnishing secrets?

— The biggest secret is together. But every mother, sooner or later, the question arises: "How to simplify household chores"? Of course, I do too. I will share my common truths, which I talk about quite often:

"Using my aunt's principle, The "trip" principle. She likes to repeat: "Do not go empty." Remember how the Queen of the gas station sent drivers "on the way" for gravel? So this “along the way” principle works well with things, especially if there are more than two people in the house. You run to the kitchen to turn off the escaping milk, grab the tea cup left by the computer along the way. When you go back, grab a pen and a notebook, which have been eating dinner on the kitchen table since yesterday evening.

« If not me, then who? Elementary: everyone washed their plate after eating, put away the mug, etc…

« Do it right away. Everything at once in place (not on an armchair or chair, they say, in an hour the thing will be needed again, but in place). Sometimes this point argues with the first)).

« Weeding". "Noble culture" needs conditions: Every day 10 things down. Let the small, all the same down. Plus, when you bring something new into your home, you throw away the old.

Graphs-traffic. I have several active charts:

• priority chart
• thematic schedule (I write the next version of the task with stickers)
• schedule "Important family matters"
• There is also such a thing as “Patch holes”: holes are debts, and patches are to whom, what and when I should return.

How do the main part of your acquaintances relate to large families?

- Caution...

Whether you work?

— I work at home. In addition to everyday work, I also work on the creative and coaching fields. For more than 10 years I have been engaged in journalism, a little less in writing. I have 10 books in my portfolio.

The creative and writing theme has been accompanying me like a red thread for 26 years. And at the beginning of last fall, I organized the project “I want to write a book”. A project for beginners (and not only) writers. Next to me is an amazing team of professionals, each of which complements each other. We do not apply for a literary institute. We have a completely different approach. In order for the writer to feel calm and confident, so that he can create without drowning in the writing routine, we have collected the necessary material and put it on a silver platter. These are creative time management, and writer's naming, and book marketing (do writers like to promote?), And copyright (we are an amazing media lawyer), and many others. others

Well, and most importantly, we create an atmosphere of creativity and support psychologically, because I am a psychologist, and my colleague Natalya Filippova is a psychotherapist.

This time we decided to make, in addition to the main project, an express version where you can immerse yourself in writing short prose.

What are your hobbies? Do they have time?

- I love handicrafts. I try to make time every day for at least 15 minutes. My biggest love is scrap. Actually, for good reason, because diaries, diaries, various pieces of paper are sacred to me. Soap making for the soul, because obsessed with natural products. I can decoupage if you want. I generally like to experiment, mix and connect anything and everything.

Do you feel like a fulfilled and accomplished woman?

I feel horizons ahead. “Realized” is like a ceiling, already “anna” (according to my feelings), so the position “student-teacher-master” is close to me - three in one.

What is your main argument in favor of large families?

- Unconditional love. In such families, most often, love does not have unnecessary signs, accents and stresses.

Thank you for participating in our project. Your example is very important for our readers.

Interviewed by Elena Kuznetsova