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Maria Arbatova, whose biography is described in this article, is a well-known Russian writer, distinguished by her feminist views.

A family

Maria's father - Ivan Gavriilovich Gavrilin - was from the Ryazan province. He studied at the Faculty of History, later worked as deputy editor-in-chief of the Red Star. Then he was sent to Murom to teach at military academies.

Maria's mother - Tsivya Ilyinichna Aizenshtat - was born in Moscow in 1922. She studied at the medical institute, but after the evacuation from the capital she transferred to the veterinary institute. She graduated with a degree in microbiology.

In 1957, in July, the couple had a daughter, Maria. A year later they returned to Moscow, where Masha went to school. Unlike her friends, she did not join the Komsomol, motivating this with her principles.

Youth (education)

After graduating from school, Maria Ivanovna entered the Faculty of Philosophy of the country's main university. But she did not study there for long, citing ideological contradictions as the reason for her expulsion.

The writer has already twenty-two books, the first of which was published in 1991. In literary criticism, her works are usually called "women's prose". What is their phenomenon?

First of all, in the fact that Maria Arbatova represents the feminist hierarchy of values ​​in her works. Many of her books are autobiographical. By her own example, she shows the reader the basic concepts of the female world. In her books, she raises the topics of motherhood, sexuality, gender equality, and civic responsibility.

Despite all her popularity in the media, Maria Arbatova does not receive high marks from literary critics for her work.

Political and social activities

The writer participated quite a lot in the country, participating in various PR projects. For example, she wrote campaign speeches for Yeltsin and

She ran for the State Duma several times, but lost, not getting a couple of percent. She was a member of some parties ("Civil Force"), as a candidate participated in the elections to the Moscow City Duma.

After she was expelled from the list of candidates for deputies of the State Duma in December 2007, she wrote a revealing chapter about her party, including it in the book "How I honestly tried to get into the Duma." The main indignation was directed at the personality of M. Barshchevsky, the head of the party.

Maria Arbatova, whose photos often appear in the "yellow press", stands up for the rights of LGBT minorities, defends the rights of gay couples who want to have a child. In this regard, accuses the government of our country of discrimination.

Personal life

Despite the fact that the writer is not a canon of female beauty, there were always many men around her. She first married at the age of eighteen. Her chosen one was the musician Alexander Miroshnik. They met in a bohemian institution, and three days later they went to the registry office. The hasty decision did not affect the quality of family life, which lasted for seventeen years.

In this marriage, Mary gave birth to two sons - the twins Peter and Paul. Young people graduated from the Russian State Humanitarian University and successfully work in their specialties. In their youth, they played in a rock band, paying tribute to their father's talent.

Arbatova met her second husband on the day the divorce was filed with her first husband. And in their history, too, events spun like a whirlwind. Oleg Vite was a political expert. Their marriage lasted eight years.

The third marriage is still ongoing. Maria Arbatova, whose personal life consists of a series of fateful events, hopes that this union will remain until the end of her life. Her husband is Hindu Shumit Datta Gupta, who has been living in Russia since 1985.

MARIA ARBATOVA AND OLEG VITE

In the life of the most feminine Russian "feminist" there were many men. But she always outplayed all her partners in family relationships. Her latest marriage to a leading political expert, a deputy of the State Duma of the Russian Federation, Oleg Vite, was no exception. And although now a new lover loomed on the horizon, Arbatova believes that the main men of her life are still twin sons - Peter and Pavel.

“I have always been a feminist, I just didn’t know about it, like Molière’s Georges Dandin didn’t know that he had been speaking prose all his life. I simply could not help but come to feminism when I met the active workers of this movement and realized that I profess this very ideology. My entire biography is a struggle to restore self-esteem. Moreover, the struggle is not for life, but for death.

Everything is wonderful, only the ideas that Arbatova preaches can hardly be called feminism. Feminism is the struggle of women for equal rights with men, and in Russia these rights were given to the fair sex as early as 1917. As for self-esteem ... This is exactly where some “tension” occurs, and regardless of gender accessories. In addition, feminists also refuse signs of male attention, do not flirt, do not recognize manifestations of weakness in the form of fashionable clothes, hairstyles or makeup. Arbatova has never been seen in such extremes, rather the opposite. At the same time, the expert "on women's souls", who received such a high-profile title in the talk show "I myself", has always been just ... a virtuoso of outrageous society.

In fact, she "distinguished herself" not only in the television field. Having monopolized the right to represent Russian feminism, Arbatova headed the socio-political organization "Club of Women Interfering in Politics" and received the fourth "Golden Lioness" in secular results. She is the author of 14 plays that are shown in major Russian theaters, and 13 books read to holes by compatriots who are trying to find in them a recipe "how to become happy." Many Russian feminists are angry at Arbatova, who stubbornly confuses feminism with feminization, femininity with femininity, gender with gender, and gender with the ceiling. They're really angry. Masha Arbatova, after all, is just "the face of Russian feminism."

Maria Arbatova was born in 1957 in the city of Murom, Vladimir Region, in the family of a serviceman Ivan Gavrilin, but from the age of one she lived in Moscow. She was a very late child: “When I was born, my mother was 35 years old, and my father was 47. He had two sons, I was the first girl who broke off with him. And all my childhood he looked at me as a miracle of nature. In general, I believe that a successful woman is made by the admiring eyes of her father. My father died, leaving me at the age of 10, but, apparently, the supply of his love was enough for me for the rest of my life.

When the girl was one year old, she contracted polio. At that time, children were practically not vaccinated, and Masha could remain bedridden, but "got off" with a limp. Until the age of five, she lived in hospitals and sanatoriums, where they did not treat, but broke her psyche: “These were surgical experiments on children in an attempt to catch up with world orthopedics. With all this, I believe that polio saved me: if I had stayed at home, then my active mother would have simply crushed me. She is a very gifted woman who did not allow herself to be realized socially.

Masha's mother left her scientific work and followed her husband to the provinces, when in 1950 he, a teacher of Marxist-Leninist philosophy, "fell into history" and was transferred from the capital to the Vladimir region. Maria built her biography on not doing like her mother: “All my feminism, apparently, comes from here: I saw how expensive it is for a woman to give up herself and her inclinations, how her loved ones suffer from this, how quickly she stops understand grown-up children, how painfully they endure someone else's success.

When Masha was in the fourth grade, her parents sent the girl to a medical special boarding school. In the very first year, she passed her "registration" there, as in prison. The children in the boarding school were from dysfunctional families, and she was such a “wunderkind”, well-read girl beyond her years, and her handsome dad drove in the style of Marcello Mastroianni. They promised to beat her with the whole class and appointed a time in a gazebo in the forest. She came there with her head held high: “Until the last second, I had no idea that this could be so. I was from a different social stratum, my parents never touched me with a finger. And even though thirty years have passed, I clearly remember how they beat me with legs and crutches, and dragged my face along the earthen floor of the arbor. I remember how I go into the subway, covering my broken face with a scarf, I come home, I explain that I will never return to the boarding school. And the parents, having consulted, say that the team cannot be wrong. I haven't been able to forgive them for that yet."

“The main problem of our generation is,” Arbatova said many years later, “that we are the children of parents who were formed under Stalin. They have a pathological fear that someone does not stick out of the gray mass, they remember what happened to such people. Cutting off our talents and bright feathers, they sincerely wanted to save us. When Masha returned to her school, healthy children surprised her with the degree of their infantilism: “I came from a world where blood was shed and complexes were on fire, and here, as in a kindergarten, someone cried because of a lost hairpin with a bunny, and who something - because the boy did not write a note to her. With the boys, the beautiful girl had no problems, they, according to her, "always had much more than the body could absorb." In addition, she quickly became the leader in the class. And with my friends, everything was going great.

When Masha was about to move from the "class of virgins" to the "class of non-virgins", she leafed through her thick notebook and did not find anyone suitable for this event. And so I wanted a hero ... Once she was standing on Kropotkinskaya, waiting for a friend, when suddenly an artist approached her and asked her to pose for a portrait. Maria instantly understood - this is the one she was looking for: “The poor fellow barely managed to get the slate pencils, as he was drawn into my task. I arranged such an Indian movie ... The novel was short-lived, but magnificent. I remember him with cheerful tenderness. He was 30 years old, I was 15, but I lied that I was 18. We met after 20 years, he turned out to be not the worst product of his era, but if I had continued my relationship with him in my youth, I would have become nothing but an application to him".

In high school, during the holidays, Masha worked at the polyclinic registry, studied at the School for Young Journalists, wrote articles and poems in newspapers, did not join the Komsomol for reasons of principle, no matter how forced, she “actively hipped” and was going to eventually become a major Russian poetess. When she entered the Faculty of Philosophy of Moscow State University, Masha did not get half a point and was terribly worried. Walking along the avenue, she began to enter all the institutions in a row. In complete desperation, the girl went to the Literary Museum, and suddenly they took her to put up posters and serve tea to the writers.

Then she nevertheless entered the Faculty of Philosophy, but soon left it and began to attend numerous seminars and courses in psychology. At that time, Mary was promised a great and bright literary future. And when her first collection of poems was being prepared for publication, the question arose of how to sign it. The simple Russian surname Gavrilin seemed to her unsuitable for a poet. Then I remembered the nickname given to her, living on the Arbat, by her friends - Moscow hippies: Masha from the Arbat. So the writer Maria Arbatova was born.

Then she wrote her first play and applied to the A. M. Gorky Literary Institute for the drama department. It was then that 18-year-old Masha met Alexander Miroshenko, a 23-year-old Gnesinka student, in the trendy Moscow cafe Aromat, where hippies, artists and musicians gathered. On the third day of their acquaintance, young people applied to the registry office. On the eve of the wedding ceremony, the bride passed the last entrance exam to the Literary Institute, and the groom at that time ran to buy her shoes. Not knowing what kind of foot she had, he took two sizes up ...

In 1977, twin sons, Peter and Pavel, were born in the family. Raising children, a young housewife mother practically did not earn money. It was then that female social activity woke up in her: “In order not to kill anyone from sitting at home, I began to write plays and rapidly took up literary and theatrical secular life. My husband was a typical macho and ideal partner in everyday life, one of those who drags everything into the house, crafts around the clock. He had only one drawback: touring for six months.

While still a student at the Literary Institute, Maria "rudely sent off" an elderly professor, with whom, in her words, "everyone slept." And as a result, after the state exams, I could not get a diploma. The then vice-rector Yevgeny Sidorov did not know what to advise, and therefore said: "You are a playwright, come up with something." Arbatova came up with an idea: she came to the dean's office and said: "Tomorrow I'm going to the Committee of Soviet Women to see Valentina Tereshkova." In the evening, Maria received a call from the institute and was told to bring a record book, in which the missing "test" appeared.

At the same time, Maria began to share the ideas of feminism, as a continuation of the ideas of respect for human rights: “If I now entered the maternity hospital and tried to talk to me the way they said when I gave birth to my sons ... I would smash him to pieces! A woman gives birth to a man, and you can’t treat her like drunken cattle at a beer stall: “Well, you ... well, go ... lie down - you won’t die!” Can not be so! And our women not only endure, but take it all for granted. Take, for example, our primordially Russian: “He beats - it means he loves.” This is impossible to translate into any foreign language. No one will understand, because there either - beats, or - loves. For her, this ideology "flowed" from the need from childhood not to live, but to survive, to constantly make independent decisions and not rely on anyone. “The most interesting thing,” Arbatova thought, “is that the majority of women are in this position, they just don’t admit it.”

Years passed. With the fall of censorship in Russian theaters, her plays began to be staged, and publishers began to print prose. Since about 1990, Maria began to call herself a “feminist writer”: “I can write almost everything: poetry, plays, prose, screenplays, articles and presidential programs. I wrote the first article in my life when I was already a staged playwright, when they tried to expel my sons from school for self-esteem. I was lucky, brilliant people paid attention to me and set important milestones in my path. Alexander Eremenko taught me to write poetry. Arseny Tarkovsky taught not to write. Yegor Yakovlev forced to become a publicist. Galina Starovoitova - to run for the State Duma.

In 1991, she organized the Harmony women's mental rehabilitation club, which at various times combined a weekly bachelorette party, a dance class, makeup and aerobics lessons, and much more. From 1996 to the present, Arbatova has directed the Club of Women Interfering in Politics. For about five years she worked as a columnist for Obshchaya Gazeta, took part in writing Boris Yeltsin's election program (and even managed to make her feminist contribution to the creation of the Women's Rights and Children's Rights sections), and also composed the presidential election program for Ella Pamfilova . “In general,” Arbatova said, “it is more comfortable to work with women in politics than with men. They are so much more adaptable and so less ambitious that if they had money for elections, we would have raised the country in four years. Men involved in politics dramatize this craft very much. And all the intellectual machinations that men carry out in positions of power are no more difficult than what any woman in her family does every day. And at the level of intrigue, and at the level of decision-making, and most importantly, at the level of taking responsibility.

By then, her first "bohemian and emotional" marriage of 17 years had come to an end. In the new economic conditions, it has become difficult for spouses to live under the same roof, "when the husband cannot cope with the situation, which the wife copes with easily and playfully." The singer-husband "did not find himself in the reforms", and the feminist wife "turned out to be stronger, she took over everything." On October 4, 1993, they had a divorce, and Maria's feelings were already divided between three new contenders for her hand. All the candidates were foreigners, were at that time in different capitals of the world and were shocked to watch the broadcast about the tragic events in Moscow: “All three did not find the strength to call me, and I live not far from the White House. The image of a man, so delicately arranged that his own mental suffering obscures the rest of the world, crumbled into dust in my mind. And fate reacted favorably to this change, exactly the next day in Yegor Yakovlev's office in Obshchaya Gazeta I met my chosen one. I was attracted to stagnation by people who were able to resist the regime, my current hero knows how not only to protest, but also to work.

Leading expert of the Effective Policy Foundation Oleg Vite was born in 1950 in Leningrad. After a week of romance with Arbatova, he decided to divorce his then fourth wife, but the formalities dragged on until April 1994. The wedding fell on the 19th, the day he met Alexander Miroshenko, and the superstitious Arbatova postponed it for several days. But the second marriage was just as chaotic as the first. This time, Maria was in a hurry with a stamp to dissociate herself from her first husband, she was afraid of his unpredictable antics and in a hurry even forgot to buy a white dress.

In family life, Maria immediately abandoned the “position” of a housewife: “Our house is divided into some sectors. And my share in everyday life is the smallest. This is more of a general guide. The biggest thing I do is go to the convenience store with my husband. Everything else is not done by me. I'm more of a home program coordinator."

During this period, Arbatova was invited to the TV-6 channel in the women's talk show "I myself". But, having worked as a co-host for more than six years, she left the program, which glorified her throughout the country: “I left after we could not agree with Alexander Ponomarev on the rules of the game. Even then, the program space was slowly becoming paid. Such a “shop on the couch”. The hero who paid for the transfer paid money for praise to himself. I had a completely different opinion about the treatment of drug addicts by the Marshak Clinic and the University of Natalia Nesterova. I said one thing, but they mounted me exactly the opposite. Plus, the channel paid the program one tenth of what it earned, and spent the rest on the development of completely mediocre programs.

Mary's second marriage lasted 8 years. According to Arbatova, he was very politicized, correct and boring. However, although her husband sat at work for days on end, thanks to him she was surprised to find that “a man has an opinion about how and what should happen in everyday life: receiving guests, arranging furniture, cooking soup ... He actively encouraged my career, happy to solve everyday problems. He is one of those super-full men who believe that they need only spiritual and sexual intimacy from a woman. Therefore, they cannot be married on a bowl of soup and an ironed shirt every morning. We parted in a restaurant, celebrating the anniversary of our acquaintance.

The betrayal of her husband prompted her to divorce Vita Arbatov. This happened in 1999 during the elections to the State Duma, where Maria ran for the party of Kiriyenko and Gaidar. The politicians simply “set up” an inexperienced woman, agreeing behind her back with the candidate of another party, Mikhail Zadornov: “The whole team threw me at the bandits. And the husband, in my opinion, should have had a position in any form: punch Gaidar or Kiriyenko in the face. Everyone was all on the drum, they told me: “Well, we warned you that elections are difficult. Well, don't bend down, we'll shoot you." And of course, I have a complaint against my husband, since he has lived in politics for a huge number of years, knowing that before the elections I will not become different, that I will not take the money and, grateful, will not crawl away with them in my teeth from the district, so as not to interfere Mikhail Zadornov.

As a “socially oriented” person, as a “Western woman”, Maria looked at marriage in her own way: “It gives marriage, a love or friendship relationship to develop socially, or it slows me down. In the divorce situation with both the first and second husband, a list of huge claims and accusations appeared that were already unbearable. Then my husband said: “I cannot live in such an atmosphere because you consider me a traitor. And from this point of view, you build a relationship with me. Let's call the family psychologist." I answered him that, naturally, I consider him a traitor on this and that and other points. Because in 1999, when the first death threats were made against me and my children, you suddenly felt the urge to go to London and shake hands with the Laborites in their parliament. I asked him how important this trip is, because I'm not "Schwarzenegger". He flew away. Such things are not forgiven. If my husband were threatened with violence, I would stay at home, I just could not leave him in trouble.

In addition, there were many more things in which the husband behaved as if Arbatov was an abstract person running for office, and not his specific wife, whom he “knows in full”: “The husband was involved in politics. And over time, it was psychologically difficult for him to understand that on his field I quickly acquired a fairly visible outline. If at first for everyone in politics I was another wife of Oleg Vite, then later people who don’t watch TV, don’t read books, said: “Ah, Vite, this is the one who is Arbatova’s husband.” Subconsciously, Oleg could not come to terms with this title.

In general, Maria believed that a man is the best that nature has created ... for a woman. But she did not actively accept the “male formula of love”: since she “made happy” a woman with her love, it means that she has nothing more to dream about, and nowhere to strive, and pay attention to someone else. “Why would I stand on my hind legs in front of one“ lord and master ”, Arbatova frankly told reporters, “let five better stand on their hind legs in front of me, and I will choose taking into account my interest, my mood. I really like it, I think it is pleasant, comfortable and generally wonderful. In scientific language, I am for the polyandrous family, that is, for the one that was under matriarchy.

Maria calls both her divorces social. The first husband could not treat the changes in the country in an adult way, fell into depression and dumped all the problems on his wife. The second marriage broke the elections to the State Duma. In critical situations, she needed the protection of her husband. She didn't receive it. “When I divorced Oleg,” Maria said, “my sons joked: “Mamik, you need a man who would be stronger than you.” And where can I get it, because Putin is already married.

In 2002, exactly on the anniversary of the wedding with her second husband - April 16 - Maria met her new chosen one. This happened at the Kremlin Palace at the awards ceremony: “We said hello backstage, then I saw him on stage, we talked quite a bit, but everything was already clear ... He asked me to write down my mobile for him, I wrote it down. He was surprised and asked: “Why are you recording my mobile number for me? Write yours." It turned out that only one digit does not match in our phone numbers. It looked like a clear signal of something beyond our control. The funny thing is that this man is made up of the best qualities of both my husbands.”

Maria's new hobby is a married US citizen, 55-year-old Soviet emigrant Alexander Rappoport. He left Russia 12 years ago after serving 4 years in prison and knew that if he stayed, he would end up behind bars again. He was imprisoned as a doctor who refused to sign psychiatric diagnoses for dissidents. After working as a taxi driver in the USA for six months, Alexander confirmed his professional qualifications. Today, Rappoport is the most famous psychotherapist in Russian America, hosts a program on radio and TV, gives concerts as a chanson performer.

Interestingly, to the annoyance of Arbatova, Rappoport is not a feminist, unlike the first and second husbands: “He has a complex of a man who is always the smartest, strongest and knows everything better. He's used to women looking at him like they're God." This is a serious problem in the relationship, but so far, inside their romance, the attraction is stronger than the civil war. And as two people involved in psychology, they manage to negotiate. Maria is not embarrassed that Alexander is married: “Love is not determined by the presence or absence of a stamp. In my passport, for example, there is a stamp about the last marriage. But I'm not going to sign any mutual obligations with anyone yet. I am 45 years old, and I have already been married for a total of 25 years, almost most of my life. And I want to take a deep breath for a while.”