Speech reflects a state of mind. Body language of a man
1. Change your body language
Pay attention to your body when you are overwhelmed by negative emotions. Look at your face: the corners of your mouth are lowered, your forehead is furrowed. How do you keep your back? Are you slouching?
If you have a hotbed of negative thoughts in your head, your body behaves accordingly. And when such thoughts become constant, it gets used to such a situation. You have probably seen people with a mask of contempt or anger on their face, which persists in any situation.
This also works in the opposite direction: the clamped position of the body and the frowning face do not create the best mood. So your first step in getting rid of bad thoughts is to change your posture and facial expressions. Straighten your back and straighten your shoulders. Feel where tension has accumulated in your body, and relax, smile. Within a few moments you will feel that the emotional background is changing.
2. Discuss your feelings
Some people tell everyone about their problems and even savor it. Others keep everything in themselves to the last, and then get a nervous breakdown.
If you still have some negative emotions that do not go away, try to tell your loved ones about it. By putting into words, you give shape to emotions and put them into perspective. After the conversation, you will be surprised how stupid it was to worry about the voiced occasion, and the negative will disappear.
3. Stop the flow of thoughts
If a thousand thoughts rush through your head in one minute, it is difficult to decide something for yourself and somehow control it. If you are stuck on the negative, try not to think about anything at all for just one minute. By paying attention to what is happening in your head and what thoughts dominate there, you can change the situation.
4. Change the wording
It is amazing how much the tone of a whole phrase or thought changes from a slight change in wording. Compare: "I'm going through a difficult period in my life, I have problems" and "I'm going through a period of changes in my life, I'm looking for better solutions." The underlying data hasn't changed, just the problems have been called changes. But who's to say it's not true?
5. Get creative
When negative thoughts attack you, you can spend some time getting creative. It works just like a conversation, with the exception that you don't have to annoy anyone with your problems. You can do anything: write prose or poetry, draw with a pencil or paint. , finally.
A splash of emotions through creativity is a kind of art therapy that will not only provide relaxation, but also cheer you up. Negative thoughts will pass through you, take shape, and stay there, not in your head.
6. Take a walk
It often seems that our own head is the only source of negativity. Most often this is the case, but it also happens differently. If you are surrounded by toxic people, such as in a family where everyone constantly fights and blames each other, or at work, where everyone is on their nerves, half of the negativity may be due to their mood.
If you are not a guru, it is unlikely that you will be able to get rid of heavy thoughts while being in such an environment. Therefore, if possible, leave it to calm down. Go for a walk or go somewhere: to an exhibition, to your favorite cafe, to the cinema - this will help you find.
7. Make a Thank You List
Sometimes we forget about all the good things in our lives. It seems that there is no way out and a complete failure on all fronts. So, sitting in a cozy and warm apartment, having come from a favorite job, a person may think that his life is a cesspool, and he is a complete loser. And all because of the coincidence of minor troubles for the day or an unfulfilled project hanging over the soul.
To cope with this state, write down all the good things that are in your life, what you are for. For example: “I am grateful for my appearance and health”, “I am grateful for loving and beloved relatives”, “I am grateful for true friends”.
Look at the resulting list and see for yourself: minor annoyances cannot outweigh this.
Task number 18. Punctuation marks in a complex sentence. Place punctuation marks: indicate the number (s) in the place of which (s) in the sentence should be (s) a comma (s). 1. In the morning, the mountains (1) lay in fog (2) through (3) which (4) their outlines were barely visible. 2. Currently, the possibility of using Antarctic icebergs to obtain fresh water (1) is being considered, the deficit (2) of which (3) may soon cover two-thirds of the inhabitants of the Earth. 3. In the poem (1), Pushkin recalls his two-year exile and his nanny (2) steps (3) whom (4) he will never hear again. 4. A lone traveler (1) whose approach (2) (3) I heard earlier in the sensitive silence of a frosty night (4) was tempted by my cheerful fire. 5. Stone paths (1) winding lines (2) which (3) symbolize the flow of energy (4) take on a special meaning in the Japanese garden. 6. Small mountain rivers (1) have now turned into turbulent streams (2) crossing (3) through which (4) took us a lot of time. 7. Pushkin became extremely interested in the story of P.V. Nashchokin and set about drawing up plans, and soon writing a novel (1) whose hero (2) (3) in the original plan (4) appears under the name of Ostrovsky, later changed to Dubrovsky. 8. Valery Petrovich (1) to the opinion (2) of which (3) almost all the employees of the department listened (4) advised us to refuse early testing of the device being developed. 9. Some species of tropical and subtropical fish have a suction cup (1) on their heads with the help of (2) which (3) they attach (4) to a variety of animals. 10. I did not pay attention to the tone of my gloomy neighbor (1) in whose face (2) (3) I now tried to see a simple and kind person (4) and took the cup and bread offered by him. 11. The first stage of business conversations or negotiations (1) may be an introductory meeting (2) in the process (3) of which (4) the subject of negotiations is clarified and organizational issues are resolved. 12. With delight (1) we looked at the magnificent shores of the strait (2) past (3) which (4) our boat sailed. 13. The works of Kuindzhi, Polenov, Savrasov, Levitan (1) each (2) of which (3) aroused great interest of the audience (4) represented different directions within the unified framework of the Russian realistic landscape. 14. Before approaching the tree (1) in the shade (2) of which (3) Natka (4) was hiding, they apparently argued about something and walked a few steps in silence. 15. I settled (1) under a tree (2) whose crown (3) protected me (4) from the rain. 16. Gross domestic product is that indicator (1) on the basis of (2) which subdivides countries (3) into developed and developing countries. 17. Sometimes (1) experiments use tasks (2) whose logical structure (3) (4) has no analogues in real life. 18. Stone paths (1) winding lines (2) which (3) symbolize the flow of energy (4) take on a special meaning in the Japanese garden. 19. Small insects (1) whose oxygen consumption is (2) low (3) may not replenish air supply for a very long time. 20. An important role in Tchaikovsky's operas is played by the orchestra (1) in different parts (2) of which (3) independent musical themes often develop. 21. On a sunny and clear morning, Volodya and Lida walked along a beautiful alley (1) in the depths (2) of which (3) one could see a two-story white building (4) and had a nice conversation. 22. Thinking (1) ensures the ability of a person to respond correctly to a new situation (2) for the resolution (3) of which (4) there is no ready-made recipe. 23. Gray's father and mother were slaves (1) of the wealth and laws of that society (2) in relation to (3) to which it is customary to say "higher" (4) and their position in it. 24. For the treatment of various diseases in medicine, (1) bee venom is widely used (2) the need (3) for which (4) is constantly growing. 25. It was (1) in Tashkent (2) from which (3) the unforgotten horror of cold (4) remained for life (4) that we spent the difficult years of evacuation. 26. Trees (1) near (2) which (3) we settled down (4) stood alone in the middle of an open field that was sown with rye and buckwheat. 27. And now I’m looking at the photo (1) of the story (2) which (3) just told (4) and again I think about the incomparable role of chance in our life. 28. These cute childhood fun (1) memories (2) of which (3) I still carefully keep in my heart (4) were something undoubtedly important and valuable for us. 29. Goncharov's novel "Oblomov" (1) favorably differed from the moralistic stories of the natural school by the thoroughness and "monographic" nature of the picture (2) the natural beginning (3) of which (4) was the image of the hero's ordinary day. 30. Research (1) is devoted to the genre of the solemn ode (2) whose poetics (3) (4) acquires original features in the work of Lomonosov. Keys: 1 2 16 1 2 1 17 2 3 2 18 14 4 14 19 13 5 14 20 1 6 2 21 14 7 1 22 2 8 14 23 24 9 1 24 2 10 14 25 24 11 2 26 14 12 2 27 14 13 14 28 14 14 14 29 2 15 2 30 2
To have good relationships, it is very important to pay attention to speech. Speech is the translation of our thoughts, our vibrations, into words, into sound.
What is our speech today? We pay little attention to the tone in which we speak, what words we pronounce.
Using abusive and simply very dirty words, we kind of forgot about what a noble and sublime speech is. But this is not only evidence of our ignorance and degradation of consciousness. Isn't it obvious that when we speak harsh and dirty words, the peace and happiness within us do not increase. Everything happens just the opposite. We allow negative energy to manifest, and then we wonder why we have to take headache pills so often.
Meanwhile, there is a direct connection between the mind and speech. If the mind is healthy, speech is worthy. A healthy mind is always positive. With such a mind, we do not talk about the shortcomings of others, we do not criticize, we do not express claims. We do not complain about fate. The tone of speech is calm and friendly. Everyone, of course, is happy to communicate with such an interlocutor. To speak with anger is a sign of weakness of the soul.
According to statistics, 90% of all quarrels and conflicts are due to the fact that we speak badly about someone. We all need to learn to speak in a pleasant, noble manner by controlling our speech. In the East, a person who cannot control his speech is considered primitive.
It has long been noticed that we acquire the qualities of the person we think and talk about, therefore, speaking badly about someone, criticizing him, we show the negative qualities of this person in ourselves. If we praise, then we show the good that is inherent in this person. Therefore, thinking about God and talking about Him is the easiest way to acquire divine qualities.
Note that the more selfishness, envy, ill will we have, the more difficult it is for us to speak warmly about someone. The coarser the speech, the less harmonious we are, therefore, the more severe the lessons of life we receive.
One of the reasons why we get tired today and have little time is because we talk a lot. Verbosity is a sign of idle talk. It is necessary to speak little, quietly, with patience and nobility. This way you can save both time and energy.
It is important to learn how to check your speech. They said something and offended a person. And then we make excuses: “I said it just like that ... I didn’t mean to offend at all ...”. This language needs to be changed. The words should have the essence - such words are strong.
Once I met a friend whose appearance has changed a lot. And without thinking, I said: “Oh, how you lost weight. You just don't know." He said softly, "I'm on a diet." Then we talked a little more and parted ways. It was only as I walked away from him that I suddenly realized the tactlessness of my words. After all, weight loss could be caused by illness. And my words could hurt him.
I began to make excuses to myself: “Yes, maybe he’s not sick, maybe he really decided to lose weight, now many people look after their appearance, follow various diets.” But then I firmly decided: there will never be such judgments in my words again. Wisdom teaches: think before you say anything.
Words make sense if they are tactful and filled with love for others.
And then, no matter how “bitter” words you utter, your heart will certainly accept them. These words will not seem bitter, they will seem accurate.
Otherwise, if we use harsh words, the harshness appears in our appearance. Then our pride is obvious to others, and people will be offended by us. But if even “bitter” words are spoken with love, the feeling of resentment will be transformed, and people will feel our mercy.
You need to talk about everything exactly, but with love. Whatever words the mother instructs the children, but because of motherly love, they are not perceived as harsh and bitter. Children feel: mother loves us, she wishes us well. And in the same way, no matter how clear we say everything, it does not hurt others if we show mercy.
Realize that yelling is not a constructive solution to an issue. Some people do not perceive information at all when their voice is raised at them. Other individuals may panic if they hear op. Still others are capable of retaliatory aggression. The option when a person understands you and does not pay attention to the tone happens very rarely. It is understandable. Few can tolerate such treatment.
Understand that by screaming, you demonstrate your disrespect - both in relation to yourself and to those around you. A person with self-esteem, adequate self-esteem, self-confident, will not allow himself to be humiliated to such inappropriate behavior. This is how you demonstrate your weakness and inability to communicate normally with other members of society.
People around do not seek to communicate with such unrestrained individuals. If you want to have relatives and friends next to you, stop bullying them with your cry. Otherwise, you risk being left alone. Problems can be not only in personal life, but also at work. Such intemperance will definitely hurt your career.
By not resisting the aggression that fills you, you harm your body. All important systems in your body suffer from high nervous tension. Be aware that people who are overly quick-tempered can suffer from cardiovascular disease and high blood pressure.
Control yourself
Pay attention to your psychological state. If you constantly break into a scream, it means that something in your life is clearly not going the way you would like. Since unresolved problems have such power over your mood and ability to control yourself, you need to urgently deal with them.
Take time to take care of your own health. Malaise, fatigue can cause irritability. Get plenty of rest, exercise, eat right. The better you feel, the higher your mood will be.
Imagine how you look from the outside when you raise your voice to loved ones, colleagues, or completely unfamiliar people. Surely others perceive you as an inadequate, unpleasant or ridiculous individual. If you don't want to appear like that, pull yourself together.
Try to take it easy on some things. Don't get so annoyed about things you won't even remember in the future. Always think about how this or that event really matters to your life. This method will help you not to waste your nerves over trifles.
went to the stove and put a round loaf of bread on Yashkin's knees,
a piece of boiled (2) meat, two onions and a birch bark (3) basket with salt,
Made (4)th in the form of a pencil case.
15 Set up punctuation marks. Choose two sentences in which you want to put ONE comma. Write down the numbers of these sentences.
1. He took out a pouch and a pipe from his pocket and then took hot coal from the fire.
2. The entire visible world for us was limited to this fire and a small piece of the island with prominent outlines of bushes.
3. The boat swayed measuredly and screeched softly under the impact of the reflected and broken but still strong wave.
4. No stars, no moon, no dawn were visible in the sky.
5. In moments of melancholy, the formidable general became more helpless
child and many were in a hurry to take out their grievances on him.
Answer: ___________________________.
16 Place punctuation marks:
The space opposite (1) located between the porch and the deaf
The wall of the window (2) was taken away by high boards (3) that allowed
See (4) only a small patch of sky.
Answer: ___________________________.
17 Place punctuation marks: indicate all the numbers that should be replaced by commas in the sentence.
Already about two thousand years ago, the Greek and Roman scientists were (1)
It is known for certain (2) that numerous
Tribes of the Wends. Veneds (3) according to modern archaeologists (4) were the ancestors of modern Slavic peoples.
Answer: ___________________________.
18 Place punctuation marks: indicate all the numbers that should be replaced by commas in the sentence.
I did not pay attention to the tone of my gloomy neighbor (1) in the face (2)
Whom (3) now tried to see a simple and kind person (4) and took the cup and bread offered by him.
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