How to find inner harmony with yourself. How to achieve inner harmony and peace

Get out of your head and into your heart. Think less and feel more. Do not get attached to thoughts, immerse yourself in sensations... Then your heart will come to life. Osho

Today there are many blogs on different topics. But the topics of the “Live!” blog became the closest to me. This is due to the peculiarity of my profession. Often people come to me for coaching who are quite successful, literate, earn good money, and constantly develop. And usually coaching begins with requests: to increase profits, develop new business skills, write a development plan, time management, and so on. That is hot topics for today for all successful and business. Only now, such coaching often moves smoothly to the study of personal issues: improve relationships with loved ones, employees, children, spouses; find free time for their personal needs and requirements; make life more interesting, brighter, more harmonious.

And I made certain conclusions: people have forgotten how to LIVE! They are constantly running somewhere at breakneck speed, earning money, rushing to meetings, developing daily in many directions, becoming better, smarter, stronger, more enterprising ... And then I ask them the question: “Why do you need all THIS?” And I see emptiness in my eyes. And I hear in response memorized, to everyone famous phrases: "To be happy". “And when you are happy, what are you like? What are you doing? Who surrounds you, and what is happening to you? And the person describes a situation absolutely opposite to today's way of life.

Many people have a stereotype: in order to get something, you must first invest a lot of effort, emotions, money, time, all of yourself, and generally forget about a normal existence for a certain period of time. And only then you will be successful! Only through numerous attempts and excessive efforts can you achieve happiness, success and harmony. But this is absolutely not true!

The main idea of ​​the life of every person is to enjoy every day lived: in getting pleasure from the food we eat; in benefiting from the people with whom we associate; in enjoying the work we do, etc. After all, we only live once! And we live TODAY!

To bring harmony into your life, I recommend introducing a couple of simple habits into your daily actions: Go in for sports. Sport is the time when you are yourself. I would even recommend doing yoga or dancing. It always gives strength, energy, improves mood and health! Meditations. During meditation, a person can very effectively address his essence, truly understand what he needs, relax and gain positive internal energy! For 10 minutes of meditation, you can have a nice rest and gain strength for the whole day! Food. In addition to the fact that you need to eat properly and exceptionally healthy food, I would still recommend that you still make a ritual out of eating. Do not sin with snacks on the way ... Set the table, decorate dishes, eat slowly, feel and evaluate the taste of food, as gourmets do. Find a hobby for yourself, or a pleasant activity that involves and distracts you from all worldly affairs. And, preferably, do it yourself! It's important to spend some time alone with yourself. By the way, this is how you can develop your creativity. Surround yourself only with people you enjoy talking to, and from which you have much to learn. Much has already been said about the influence of the environment on us and our success. I won't repeat myself. I can only say one thing, that to experience the pleasure of communicating with people is important aspect in achieving life harmony. Love yourself! Love life!

We are often stressed. Everyone knows the state when you don’t want anything, everything falls out of your hands, and you don’t know how to get out of this state.

It seems to us that those around us are to blame for this, who do not understand us, annoy us in every possible way and do not allow us to live in peace. But if you remember - the world only reflects our internal state(external corresponds to internal). When we find harmony in ourselves, the outside world will change.

How to come to harmony in yourself? Meditation? Vacation trip? But a vacation happens only once a year, and, frankly, few people are ready to practice meditation. You need to work on harmony in yourself every day, and for this you need to put in order not only your spiritual world, but also the mental, mental and physical. You are in harmony with yourself when you are calm, the mind is clear, the soul "sings" and the body is energetic.

Of course, this is not all that is necessary to achieve harmony. If we don't have money, we can hardly feel good. Therefore, I want to highlight one more, fifth area, calling it “life support” - that which brings you enough money so that you have time and desire to take care of yourself.

If every day you pay attention to these areas and take care of them, then you, and therefore your life, will become more harmonious.

Physical activity along with healthy eating. I will not dwell on the benefits of these things, they do not need proof, and the variety of sets of exercises available to us is enough for everyone to choose their own and stick to it regularly. The main thing is to have enough.

❝The bliss of the body is in health, and the bliss of the mind is in knowledge❞

Steps to Harmony - Psychic Sphere

Did you know that we have only four real feelings - happiness, sadness, fear and anger, and interestingly - only one positive!

Emotions are the so-called racket feelings (from "racket" - extortion). With these emotions, we demanded love, attention in childhood and achieved our goal through manipulation.

The psyche is the most uncontrollable sphere of all, and you need to carefully protect it if you cannot control your emotions. Avoid situations that reflect badly on the emotional state.

Do not like to do something, go somewhere, communicate with someone - do not force yourself, be principled. Avoid (if possible) people with whom you are uncomfortable, communicate with those with whom you feel good. Don't watch the news, don't engage in pointless arguments. Take care of your emotional sphere. Let go of resentment, the past, get rid of guilt!

❝Don't worry about a lot and you will survive a lot❞

Steps to harmony - the spiritual realm

The most important thing is to put things in order in the soul. We observe three “not”: we don’t complain, we don’t blame, we don’t make excuses❞ B. Shaw

Our spirit needs discipline, don't ignore it. And the soul needs its own food - good books, a pleasant vacation with people important to you, a hobby, time alone with your real self and your thoughts (let's call it).

You can only understand what heals your soul by the results - the feeling of inspiration, relief or purification that you gain. Feelings of forgiveness and gratitude also have a positive effect on our soul.

❝Heal the soul with sensations, and let the soul heal the sensations❞ O. Wilde

I would like to quote from S. Covey's book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", which describes an interesting method of spiritual renewal of a person. It can be well taken into account.

Arthur Gordon short story A Turn in Life tells the delightful, deeply personal story of one's own spiritual renewal. He tells about that period of his life when he suddenly felt that everything around him had lost its novelty and brightness. Inspiration dried up; he forced himself to write, but these efforts were fruitless. Finally, the writer decided to resort to the help of a doctor. Finding no physical abnormalities in the patient, the doctor asked if he was able to follow his instructions exactly for one day.

After Gordon's affirmative answer, the doctor told him to spend the next day in the place with which the happiest memories of his childhood are connected. The doctor allowed him to take food with him, but said that he would not have to talk to anyone, would not have to read, write or listen to the radio. Then the doctor handed him four folded sheets of prescriptions and told him to read one at nine in the morning, the second at noon, the third at three in the afternoon, and the fourth at six in the evening.

The next morning, Gordon went to the coast. Opening the first prescription, he read: "Listen carefully!" He decided that the doctor was out of his mind. How can you: listen for three hours! But since he promised the doctor that he would follow his instructions, he began to listen. Hearing absorbed the usual noises of the sea and the singing of birds. After a while, he began to distinguish other sounds, not so obvious at first. As he listened, he began to reflect on what the sea had taught him as a child—patience, respect, and a sense of the interdependence of all things. He listened to sounds, he listened to silence, and a sense of peace grew in him.

At noon he unfolded the second piece of paper and read: "Try to go back". "Where is it," back? he wondered. Maybe in childhood, in your happy memories? Gordon began to think about his past, about moments of happiness. He tried to imagine them in every detail. And, remembering, he felt his insides become warmer.

At three o'clock in the afternoon, Gordon unfolded the third sheet. So far, the doctor's prescriptions have been easy to follow. But it was quite different, it read: "Check Your Motives". At first, Gordon took a defensive position. He thought about what he aspired to in life - about success, about recognition, about security - and found convincing confirmation of all these motives. But suddenly the thought came to him that all these motives are not good enough and that perhaps this is precisely the reason for his current depression.

He carefully considered his motives. I thought about the happy moments of my past. And finally found the answer.

“And suddenly, with amazing clarity, I saw,” writes Gordon, “that with the wrong motives, nothing in a person’s life can be right. It doesn't matter who you are - a postman, a hairdresser, an insurance agent or a housewife. When you realize that you are serving others, things get better for you. If you are only concerned with the interests of your own personality, your affairs are not going very well - and this is a law as immutable as the law of gravity.

When the hands of the clock approached six in the evening, it turned out that the last prescription was a piece of cake to fulfill. "Write all your worries in the sand", - indicated on the sheet. Gordon squatted down and wrote a few words with a piece of shell; then he turned and walked away. He did not look back: he knew that the tide would soon roll in.

Steps to harmony - mental sphere

The mind also needs its own special food. In new knowledge, generating ideas, solving complex problems. The mind is needed, it is on him that a woman can count (if there is no one else): only the female mind can be equal to male power.

The mind is quite an interesting tool. When it seems to you that you are completely exhausted, you suddenly have another idea, and after it another and another, you just have to not retreat.

Our main enemy in this area is mental laziness. The brain itself strives not to think! Experts explain it this way:

❞ The brain is a strange structure. On the one hand, it allows us to think, on the other, it does not. After all, how does it work? In a relaxed state, when you are relaxing, say, watching TV, the brain consumes 9% of the total energy of the body. And if you start thinking, then the expense rises to 25%. But we have 65 million years of struggle for food, for energy behind us. The brain is used to this and does not believe that tomorrow it will have something to eat. Therefore, he categorically does not want to think. (For the same reason, by the way, people tend to overeat.) ❞

Everything in us is interconnected: a healthy body gives a feeling of happiness, an open channel between mind and soul brings intuitive insights. Feelings heal the soul, and the mind gives impetus to feelings.

Everyone knows that for any thing to work for a long time and not break, you need to constantly take care of it. If you do not change the oil in the car, it will disable the entire car. Remember to take care of every part of yourself. Take four steps every day to harmony and you will achieve it, and the world around you will also become harmonious.

A slightly different interpretation of the same topic is in the article.

Which of us does not want to wake up free, happy and natural, with love in our eyes for ourselves and the world around us? Enjoy yourself and all the joys of a multifaceted life that captivates you into the unknown? Yes, it is to enjoy the fact that you are the one and only, divine creation, worthy of the best.

Change yourself, love yourself - and the world around you will change. We have heard these words many times. But is it really that easy to love yourself? And why, when we hear derogatory remarks addressed to us, do we agree with them, taking everything personally?

Such voices of "alien grandmothers", like echoes of a past childhood, for a long time, and sometimes for a lifetime, deprive us of the joy of being ourselves. Works out kinda defensive system, protecting the sensual world, but depriving the joy of feeling one's "I". Self-love is sometimes associated with other people's love for us.

Dependence on someone else's opinion and assessment is, perhaps, main reason our dislike. How to get rid of the opinion imposed on us from the outside about ourselves and love our own “I”? I want to offer you some tips, in my opinion, the only true ones, how to get out of a difficult life problem- "dislike for yourself" so that you finally remember the exciting dance of life.

1. “I am loved and appreciated as much as I love and appreciate myself”

This phrase should become the only correct motto of life on the path of self-love. You yourself can become a source of joy and love.

2. Nobody is perfect

Remember the words from the movie "Only Girls in Jazz": "Everyone has their flaws." Love yourself the way you are. Never allow yourself to be humiliated.

3. Don't compare yourself to others

You are special and unique. Loving yourself means treating yourself with love.

4. Accept your flaws

Weaknesses in some situation can shine brighter than virtues.

5. Improve

You always have a chance to get better. Loving yourself means constantly working on yourself.

6. Don't think about what others think of you.

They themselves are concerned about what you think of them. Form your own positive opinion about yourself.

7. Praise yourself for even the smallest successes.

Repeat to yourself: "I'm just lovely!"

8. Act on your inner impulses

Then there will be no feeling that they did something against their will. Respect your thoughts, desires and dreams.

9. Try to make your own decisions

So you can appreciate your own importance and independence.

10. Be yourself

Speak and do what you think is right. At the same time, of course, without prejudice to the interests of others.

And then your eyes will sparkle, and a smile of happiness and love will shine on your face, and you will be transformed right before your eyes ... You yourself will become a source of love, joy, light and strength. You will live in harmony with yourself. You will see, you will succeed! You will become the most beautiful in the world. You just have to be at peace with yourself. Both with yourself and with the world around you.

Improve and find yourself! After all, only by understanding ourselves, we can accept ourselves. Loving yourself and enjoying the joy of life is as natural to a person as the flight of a bird in the sky. This world is for you, this life is for you, and therefore love is for you!

Inner harmony with oneself is the key to a feeling of happiness and freedom. But not everyone knows about it. Most often, a person thinks that only having achieved a specific goal, and often this concerns material assets he will feel really happy. But when that moment comes, nothing really happens. Therefore, it is so important to achieve harmony within oneself today, and not to wait for something.

Have you noticed in yourself that you don’t like your daily routine, the furniture in the apartment, in other words, everything is wrong and everything is enough? Does this dissatisfaction haunt you every day? Then you need to work hard to achieve harmony. After all, a person should rejoice in what he already has, and not wait for manna from heaven.

If you have thought about this question, then the first step towards the goal has already been taken. For successful work There are three rules to remember about yourself:

• accept yourself;
• be honest with yourself;
• learn to stop the internal dialogue.

What exactly are these rules about? First of all, a person needs to accept himself for who he really is. It doesn't matter if he's rich or poor, he can boast beautiful appearance or not. You need to love yourself with all the shortcomings and learn to live with them! Only then will inner harmony be achieved.

Honesty towards yourself - what is it about? Internal conflict arises at the moment when a person cherishes false hopes, hears only what he wants to hear. We need to overcome all this and learn to face the truth. Yes, it will be difficult, but a sober look at reality will gradually lead to the intended goal.

If it’s hard for you to learn to accept yourself the way you really are, seek help from an experienced psychologist.

And the last step is to stop the internal dialogue. A person must learn to control his thoughts, to calm the mind. This will help him isolate himself from the negative, not letting him inside. Meditation, special breathing exercises will help with this.

The source of true happiness is not in the things around us, it lies within ourselves. Joy does not come by itself, it is acquired by a person who knows how to notice the good in small things, knows exactly what he wants, has calmness and measuredness. Often, everyday chores and problems distract us from knowing the inner “I”, preventing us from comprehending the grace and beauty of life. Take some time for yourself, and let's figure out together how to become happier.

What is soul harmony?

A person who is in balance between his inner world and external, capable of almost anything. He is clearly aware of what he wants from life, what peaks need to be conquered. He is not affected by the pressure of others, other people's principles and whims, imposed ideas and opinions of relatives and friends.

Listen to yourself and determine what you lack for happiness, and what prevents you from enjoying each new day as a gift from heaven. Negative factors must be dealt with immediately. Sometimes this process is not immediate, so do not rely on quick results. But once it's started, that's great. If it is impossible to influence the circumstances now or in principle, try to change your attitude towards them, unreasonable negativity in your soul prevents you from moving on.

How to achieve spiritual harmony

• Start loving and appreciating yourself, perceive your strengths and weaknesses. Ideal people does not exist, but you can always strive for perfection. Work on your spiritual qualities and take care of the physical shell, as they say, "a healthy mind in a healthy body."
• Don't think about what others will say about you. the main task for you - your personal attitude. No one can make you happy except yourself. Focus on your desires and feelings, despite the opinion of society. Be individual and free.
• Make your own decisions. Even if you made a mistake at the same time, it’s not scary, because it was your choice, and now you can draw conclusions. Mistakes are just as important as success, they help us find our way.
• Live in the present. Attachment to the past has never made anyone happy. Whatever it is, let it go. In place of the old, something new and bright will surely appear. You need to dream about what will happen in the future, but do not get carried away too much, life often makes sharp turns, and the plan may not come true. Do not despair - when one door closes, another always opens.
• Use relaxation. This is a state of rest, relaxation of the muscles of the body. Helps in relieving mental stress, reduces irritability, improves mood and well-being. It can be both meditation on various techniques, or just silence, pleasant music, time in nature.
• Do not accumulate resentment and anger, these feelings do not allow you to achieve balance and tranquility.
• Develop a sense of humor in yourself, it helps to overcome difficulties and staunchly resist a bad mood.