Why live in this world? And is it worth it? We live in this world to learn all the lessons that life gives us.

Why do you need to live, it would seem that everything is simple, if you don’t want to, don’t live, who makes you. But if you think about it, why do we all live? A person was born, so someone needs it.

First of all, to his parents, for sure they were looking forward to your birth. If there is something from above, he also blessed you. And what's next, how to understand that you live the way you should? What do you need to do in order for the insight to come that you are living your life and for this you came into this world?

The young man does not think much about these issues, he is busy with his studies, his first love is born, a family, then children. Just like others.

Looks for and finds a favorite job, thinks about the future, dreams of material things.Raising children, spinning through life as best he can. It only stops when it starts to fail. That's when thoughts appear, why do I need all this, why do I need to live? What is the result? All the same to that world.

He is not right. He did not live in vain, his children are his continuation, his pride. Even if, in his opinion, there are no special achievements in life, he was definitely born on White light not in vain.

After 50 years, parents help raise their grandchildren, they can also help financially. But after 60 years, why do you need to live?

The grandchildren have grown up, they have not needed our “wise” advice for a hundred years. Time is different, what can we advise them in the age of electronics? Children wave away. Financially? Who would help.

Then why do you need to live after 60 years? Is it because the state is writing us off at this time, setting such prices for medicines, that pension kopecks are barely enough for bread, that’s natural selection. Didn't think?

Or maybe it’s true, if we ourselves cannot find the meaning of life, who needs us. So old people are trash? Perhaps that is why such an attitude in our country towards pensioners is not respected, humiliated, driven more from office to office, so that it would not be customary to ask for something a second time.

Is it really our lot to get sick, to creak, to grumble? Let us live in spite of all deaths no worse than the young. Dig into yourself, find an incentive to live on, because we are alive, you know, alive!

So we are looking for a reason, an impetus, why you need to live further on earth. Not a single person living in this world can give an exact answer, otherwise this question would never have arisen.

If you dig deeper and ask yourself the question, what is life in general? Let's try to answer: and it turns out quite banal.

Life is laundry, cooking, work, raising children. Without it, nowhere. You will not clean, wash, overgrown with dirt. If you refuse to cook, you will die of hunger. You won’t go to work, then steal, but more like.

It’s also bad without children, this is our second self. What remains - to fly to the moon, live on a beautiful island. Maybe it's someone's life, but it's definitely not mine. I’m not drawn to the moon, I didn’t forget anything there, and without an island I don’t feel bad.

So we came to the answer, why you need to live. You need to live to be happy from the inside. If you are comfortable, good in life, then it is yours.

Problems overcame, but how without them? Life is hard for any person, nothing falls from the sky, our fate determines our strength, will we endure, will we not break?

The question that we will touch upon in our today's article is of the nature of an existential plan. What does this concept mean? An existential question is a question about the meaning, essence, and mode of existence of something. Simply put, today we will touch on the topic of being and calling of all mankind and each person individually. Let's reflect on our lives together. So:

What are we living for?

Any sane person should understand that there is no exact unambiguous answer to this difficult question yet. What is the meaning of our being on this beautiful planet? What if a person does not feel that his life is filled with a deep essence? All these questions are asked by people who are experiencing some kind of crisis. This issue is related to human psychology.

What to do ordinary person who cannot penetrate the hidden secrets of the universe and understand his destiny in this boundless world. The answer lies in the person himself. The fact is that each of us is part of one whole. Part united world. Each detail of the system, as a rule, carries the energy for the implementation of its functions. Accordingly, the fundamental task of each person is to find his function. Find your purpose in this world.

What does a person live for?

After a person can answer the question about his goals, he will be able to come closer to understanding the essence of life in general in the universe.

There is a hypothesis called chaos theory. According to the postulates of this concept, life is just a coincidence chemical reactions and biological mutations. A rather pessimistic view of the world of representatives of this theory is quite justified. Scientists and science in general do not have enough information about the origin and structure of our world. We still cannot understand ourselves. How can we understand the world that created us? This theory is supported by scientific facts. The theory of evolution and formation of galaxies and planets tells us that man appeared due to an incredible set of circumstances, which, however, took more than 14 billion years.

What is the purpose of living?

The conditions that our planet has are ideal conditions for life. For example, the Earth is at an ideal distance from the sun. She's not too close, and not too far away. The earth has natural satellite, which balances and balances the movement of our green planet both around its axis and around the sun. These are just some of the facts that make us wonder how lucky we are.

That is why many people wonder about the meaning of all this, about the meaning of their existence. The most correct and psychologically healthy position in this issue is a position that asserts that meaning lies in our own life. Every person has to find himself in something. It can be a career, family, activities and self-improvement. Many complain that they don't feel like they belong in this life. They don't see the point in their actions. They go to waste in places they don't want to be. They spend their energy interacting with people they don't need. What do they live for?

To find yourself, you need to feel yourself. You need to find exactly what you need. This is not easy, but it is absolutely necessary in order not to get lost in this complex and ambiguous world. The market economy today dictates a special manner of behavior to us, which, unfortunately, removes us from understanding our destiny in this world. Develop yourself, your body, soul and intellect. And maybe then you will find what you have been looking for.

This is not just a question, this is the key question of humanity in trying to know itself for 6,000 years. It's good that you ask him. This means you understand that clear and precise answers to questions

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-Who am I;
Who is God and does he even exist?
What happens to us after death?
What is the purpose of the universe?
Why do I come into this world against my will and leave against my will,

Over the years of searching and thinking you have not found.

And this is no coincidence.

It is also not accidental, as well as the fact that you are interested in such questions. After all, these are all requests for the sound vector in a person. Requests for knowledge of oneself, the Universe and its laws.

According to the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, there are only 5% of us sound engineers on the planet. Others are not interested in these topics at all. Everyone, except for the sound engineer, has his own meaning in the material world, and he unconsciously strives for it.

One is trying to reach heights in his career, to make a fortune. In this he finds himself and is sure that he lives precisely for this: to save, save, get ahead.

Another seeks to live for the family, children, wife. Its values ​​are honor, respect, honesty, justice. He lives and comprehends himself in building a house, raising a son and planting a tree.

Well, ask the third question why it is worth living, and he will answer: “To love and be loved.”
Everyone has their own answer and meaning, and this is fair, because the psyche, which is different by nature, dictates different aspirations and states of mental comfort.

Why do you think we live?

You do not know…

And all because your interests lie outside the plane material world. The sound vector makes you want to learn metaphysical patterns. And this is the only reason, according to which you periodically feel like a "stranger" in this world,
indifferent to everything that other people enjoy, unable to live like everyone else.

It happens that a sound engineer is not aware of his such strange desires for knowledge, does not ask such questions and does not look for answers to them. Then, unconsciously, these questions still burst out and manifest themselves in the form of severe depressions, a sense of the meaninglessness of earthly living.

Answers in sound vector

It was the lack of answers to many philosophical problems that made mankind go forward for thousands of years, develop. And this volume of development was set just by people like you and me, people with a sound vector. They sublimated their innate desires for knowledge of the universe into constructive social activity.

These geniuses of their time created languages, classical music, musical instruments. created religions and exact sciences such as physics, chemistry, mathematics. Contributed ideas about social transformations in society. They lived for it.

AT modern world the areas of implementation for people with a sound vector have become even more extensive: programming, a new augmented reality - the Internet, space research.

Also now clearly visible is the increased interest among entire generations in all kinds of esotericism, magic, witchcraft, techniques for changing consciousness or reality. This suggests that this is no longer a single, but a collective aspiration to know oneself. The former forms of knowledge cease to fill the sound engineers, and we are looking for new ones.

Why we live: the principle of pleasure

For any person, the only way to find their happiness and joy is to use their innate talents, mental properties for their intended purpose, that is, to realize themselves in society. Benefit not only yourself, but also people, by virtue of your capabilities and needs.

For example, people with a skin vector enjoy using their properties in engineering, lawmaking, and business. For people with an anal vector - perfectionism in the chosen profession, the use of analytical abilities and a talent for systematization, the transfer of experience to the next generations, in other words - learning. People with a visual vector perfectly manage to apply themselves in modeling business, both in medicine and in the field of culture.

For a sound engineer, this realization of oneself in society is doubly important, because a huge amount of psychic energy, when not in demand, has Negative influence and other vectors. According to system-vector psychology, there can be 3-5 or even more of them in a person. When a sound vector is realized, it makes room in a person for desires in other vectors, such desires that a person in an unrealized state may not even be aware of, and lives his life without realizing them.

Examples of successful realization of oneself in society among sound engineers can be cited indefinitely. This is Grigory Perelman, who proved the Poincaré conjecture, and Zuckerberg, who founded social network Facebook, and such musicians as Igor Krutoy, Igor Butman, Denis Matsuev.

Where can you find the answers?

Of course, there is no magic pill, by taking which you can immediately determine your vectors and hidden desires, instantly choose your area for activity. But there is an exact tool with which you can begin to understand the mental nature, your own and other people - this is system-vector psychology Yuri Burlan.

On the eternal question, what is the meaning of life, many answer habitually: "In children, in work, in creativity." Someone is looking for an answer to it in philosophy, religion. Someone comes to the conclusion that it does not exist ...

What does he think new generation? The one that we sometimes criticize for short-sightedness, hedonism, lack of will? Born in the ideological vacuum of the 1990s and growing up under the influence of various images and heroes: from great-grandfathers, winners of the Great Patriotic War, to quick-witted oligarchs and pop beauties ... Without pretending to be sociologically accurate, I simply gave thirty economics students whom I teach at the university a topic for an impromptu essay: “Why live?”.

First of all, as expected, the goal of life for young people is seen in creating a family, giving birth and raising children. A career is seen as a means to accomplish this. “I believe that you should devote your life to your family. And for this you need to get an education in order to work in the future at your favorite job and ensure the existence of your loved ones ... Caring for children is the meaning of life ... First of all, I want to become a mother, a good wife ... To raise my little beloved little man!

All this made me happy, because those who put off marriage and having children until “after 30”, first setting the task of buying an apartment, moving up career ladder sometimes they don't get what they want. Twenty-odd - the most age. Difficulties must be overcome together, and not invite a person to everything ready.

The second most popular value is self-development, the disclosure of one's personality in work, knowledge, and creativity. “Life is self-improvement. We move forward and constantly learn a lot of new things... We live in order to become ourselves and change the world to match ourselves... A person must live all the emotions available to him... Life is extremely interesting! Life is a test that you have to go through. Anyone who strives for the best goes through a difficult path of obstacles, because you need to fight for your happiness.

I also agreed with all these words, because Christian faith sees earthly life as a school of knowledge of oneself and God, a place for repentance and increase of talents - in general, for maturation to Eternity.

The third group of answers looks no less sublime: to improve the world. “If a person is given life, then he is needed on this Earth. Maybe it is he who will do some things that no one else will do ... Our goals are to leave a mark on history, to make a contribution to it, albeit insignificant ... To build the future of his country ... A person should strive to make the world around him better, kinder, more soulful. The main goal of everyone is to achieve something in life. Perhaps one of your great-grandchildren will study genealogical tree and something unusual and informative will tell about you!”

What can be said here? Indeed, the improvement of the world is a very important task given to all mankind in the first days of its creation. Yes, and each of the people opens up and changes for the better most often through work, creation. St. Maximus the Confessor, Father Sergius Bulgakov and many other theologians wrote well about this.

It is interesting that here we are talking mainly about changing the world precisely through labor, somewhat less often - through human relations, our own example. Although some say about it: “Why live? Give your love, bring joy to other people ... You need to think not only about yourself, but help your loved ones ... You need to live not for something, but for someone.

In many writings there is a sharp criticism of money and in general material assets as a life motivator: “Unfortunately, today many people in the constant struggle for money and position in society do not notice how beautiful the world is, how perfect nature is. They don’t know how to enjoy life and become indifferent, aggressive… Yes, without money nothing can be acquired, they can’t improve their health, they can’t get an education, but in the end, all material goods, for the sake of which many will go over their heads and commit crime, will depreciate. At the end of my journey, it will all lose its meaning.”

What beautiful words, how I want to read them to all the youth! After all, many, being themselves modest and unpretentious, are afraid to find the love of money in their future spouse or become hostages. public stereotypes well-being, therefore they do not dare to start a family for a long time.

A couple of essays were different from the others. However, there is reason to believe that their authors will not stop at the stated thoughts, but will look for answers further. One of them has only three words: "To have fun." Another essay says: “Why live? I ask this question often. And I can't find an answer. Usually everything has already been thought out for us: for girls - the birth of a child, for men - a career; the general meaning is love, family, etc. For me personally, life is meaningless.

At the end of the review, I would like to quote two students whose views are distinguished by maturity, breadth and can be recommended to every person - both successful and deprived of bodily health or rich social connections(Let me remind you that the question was asked unexpectedly, so the answers to it are not prepared, but reflect real values ​​and experiences).

"Main driving force in my life is love - for a loved one, for family, for life, for nature, for the world as a whole. This love makes you move forward, conquer new, albeit very small, peaks. Without love, any actions and events of my life would not be so bright and rich. Even to economic activity a component of love is added when, for example, a person is ready to work for days to help his relatives. The meaning of everyone's life lies in love, but each person has his own object of this feeling. For some, this is work or family, someone cannot imagine themselves without a car or a pet, someone finds himself only in traveling or connecting with nature, and someone in science, religion, art, reading, etc. e. For me, the meaning of life is in love!

And here is the second: “You need to live in order to create. To change the world around you and improve yourself. You need to live in order to love. Love your job, love the world, love people. You need to live in order to find your love in any of its manifestations. You need to live simply in order to enjoy every day you live, the sun, rain, snow, the change of seasons. Life is about helping others find joy in life. But you need to live in such a way as to be proud of your deeds, so that your mother is proud of you, in order to remain honest with yourself. You need to live in order to find the way to yourself and to God.

Yes, sometimes we have a lot to learn from our students.

My deepest conviction, backed up by my own practice and the practice of colleagues: we can handle anything, we have the strength for everything. You can understand how strong we are only when we find ourselves in some kind of difficult situation.

Another thing is that when you are in this situation, at some point it may seem that everything, I can’t do anything. Actually, I can! It is very important that someone tells you that you can handle it and that you can do it, because it is.

It doesn't matter at what age a person loses their parents

In Krymsk, during the flood, there were very difficult situations with people. There were several men whose elderly parents died. It happened at night, in the dark.

One man's father was paralyzed, he was lying in a small house, separately. And that man says: “When I woke up from the sound of water, I tried to jump out, and the door was pressed against the water. I physically could not open this door. While I was breaking the window and while I jumped out into the yard, the water instantly arrived, and the guest house was already under water, almost under the roof. I dive once, dive twice and I can't open the door there. When I had already dived, my father had already drowned.

The second man's mother died in the same way, a very elderly woman of 90 years old. They lived in neighboring houses. “I immediately started to run, and the water is higher and higher. I'm swimming up, but it's already late…” And these men were crying like children.

It does not matter at what age a person loses his parents - he is five years old or fifty, the reaction is almost identical. Indeed, as long as our parents are alive, we remain children. At this moment it turns on small man and mourns like an orphaned child. And both the five-year-old and the fifty-year-old need support: “Mom and dad loved and love you. This is what will support you for the rest of your life.” Of course, it is easier with an adult, you can talk and remember with him.

Helping children is a separate job in emergency situations. We do not have special child psychologists in the center, our specialists can work with absolutely everyone. And in an emergency, of course, the reaction of children is different from the reaction of adults. How less baby, the greater the difference, very young children - preschoolers, junior schoolchildren- very adult-oriented, especially parents, if they are nearby. As the parent behaves, in fact, so the child will behave.

If the parent remains calm, confident and conveys this to the child, and says that “I am next to you, I am here, we are together, I will help you,” then the child will neither cry, nor be afraid, nor panic. And if a father or mother loses control over himself, then the child instantly emotionally connects to it. If mom and dad are scared, then the child is ten times worse, because mom and dad are his support, an unshakable world. And we always say to parents: "Be there and show confidence, and the child will be all right." Another thing is when a child has lost his parents, this is already work that requires an individual, jewelry approach.

Substitute child

No way do we ever tell parents dead child that "you will still have children." This is tantamount to betraying this dead child. And, secondly, we do not know whether these children will or will not, we do not know whether they want to have children. We often say the opposite: “In this year and a half of your grief, don’t make any vital decisions for yourself, don’t make any important changes in your life, don’t move, don’t quit your job, don’t change your life, because it’s already you have changed. It will be even more difficult for you, because you can’t run away from yourself anyway. ”

It happens that the husband says: “I am so afraid that the wife may go crazy. Can we have another child? I understand that everything is with the best of intentions, but we say: “Think about it, this is the hardest stress for both you and your wife. Go through this period, and then you will decide whether you will have more children or not.

But in fact, to be honest, the truth here is a little different: when parents give birth to a child after the one they lost, then there is a high risk that they will give birth to a substitute child. Why is this situation dangerous? The fact that the second child parents may not allow to live their lives. They can lay on him the responsibility to live the life of a dead child: they will compare them out loud or mentally, correct them, while not wanting anything bad, nothing bad.

You must first go through your grief, and then think about how to build your life. This is very important to convey to people. Because in a state of acute grief, people very often make some decisions that they would never have made in a normal state. It must be understood that grief affects not only the emotional area, but all other areas of our lives. And part of our work, in addition to working with feelings, emotions, with a sense of guilt, is building a perspective for the future, searching for a resource, something to cling to, why to live on.

You are not the only one suffering

What is obvious to us may seem abnormal to people who are grieving. For example, with a child: “I studied so well, an excellent student, a smart girl, and suddenly I began to study poorly and everything is bad. I already have grief - my husband died, and then the child became a loser, my mother is already so bad, he wants to finish me off completely. And the child has his own grief, he experiences it like this. “Not only you have grief, but also those of your loved ones » , – this is what needs to be talked about.

You know, if you focus on yourself, then you can emerge from grief and understand that you are left alone. It seems that when a person is going through grief, he needs to be hugged, comforted, and everything will be fine. A person experiencing grief can be very aggressive, he can push you away and say: “I don’t need your help, you can’t help me, get out of here, don’t interfere.” This is also a normal reaction. This does not mean that you need to leave, it means that he needs to be helped in a different way.

There was a situation when I realized how important it is, when working with a person, to understand who else is suffering from the same loss. Especially if there are children, it is necessary to switch attention to them. There was a situation when a woman's husband died, for a long time they could not find him among the dead. They looked once - not him, again - not him, and she already thought, maybe he was in the hospital, maybe he still survived, somewhere here, but we can’t find him. And she was in a terrible state - she screams, then cries, then she starts to get angry, and at the same time someone calls her and she answers sharply, shortly, with anger. I finally understand that I need to find out who is calling? I say, "Who are you talking to?" And she is with such aggression: "Yes, this is a child, got me." I say: "Is this your child?" "Yes". "How old is he?" "Six". "Where is he now?" "At home, calls and calls, I told him where I am." That is, it is clear that it is her grief that speaks, and not she.

But then she said an even more serious thing, which, of course, could not be ignored: “Now I will come and tell him: what, I wanted the folder to die, so he died.” “And why do you think that he wanted it?” “Our father was strict, just the day before he scolded his son, he comes and says: the folder is so evil, scolded me, we would be better off if he wasn’t with us at all. So I’ll tell him now: he wanted to, and he died. ”

Of course, the first emotional reaction is to shake and say: “What are you doing, woman? And how will your child continue to live after this? But I understand that she does not realize this, she is now in her grief, her husband died and she cannot find him among the dead. I say: “Tell me, please, do you really think that your husband died because your son said so?” She says, "Of course not." "Why do you want to tell him about it?"

And then the mind turns on, the woman steps back a little and says: “What is not necessary?” I say "No. You just say: do you have any goal? So you want to say this to your son, why?” She: “Well, I don’t know, he said that.” "Do you understand why he said that?" "Well, yes, he loved him, well, yes, he was offended." I say: “Why do you think he calls so often? He is now alone there and he is very scared, he does not know what is happening, he does not understand what is happening to you, you are the main support for him, and suddenly she is not around, and he wants to know that she is still there, he is for you clings emotionally: “Mom, tell me that you exist, that you love me!” And if he hears that he is to blame for the death of his father, he will take your word for it! Children at this age trust their parents absolutely. He will accept it as a fact. Then he will go through life with the fact that his father died because he so wanted. She started crying.

Why live on?

It is very important to listen to people and understand what exactly their resource for the future may be, but we cannot come up with our own resource and say: “Here you will live, because you have children.” Maybe this is not a resource, children, but on the contrary, it’s still that heaviness about which he will say: “I won’t pull it. So I won’t pull responsibility for someone else, I can’t. Children have grandparents or aunts, but I can’t.” And therefore, a person can only say about his resource. And he himself will say, when we ask him questions and listen attentively, to talk about his life with him.

We talk with a person about himself, about his life, about love, about feelings, about loved ones. At this moment, you are trying to catch a resource and build a person a short-term perspective, at least for a short time. How will he live and what will he do.

With a fifteen-year-old girl, we walked around the morgue for two hours while dad was undergoing an identification procedure - mom died. We walked with her and talked about her life, about herself, and at that time we built a perspective - what should she do? Because she lived with her mother, her mother was divorced from her father. And the girl now has a choice: either move to new family father or live with grandparents.

On the one hand, it looked like I was trying to distract her, but in fact, at that moment we were building her future with her. Live with grandparents, but in the village, a small school, and a graduation class. Or move to Big city to the father, where good school and everything is fine, but to live with a stepmother. This is only her choice, because her father is ready, she is with her father a good relationship saved, and grandparents, of course, are ready. She needed to figure out what to choose now. And so, talking about how they lived with their mother, what kind of relationship they have with their father, with his wife, the girl gradually, in the course of her own reasoning, comes to the conclusion where and how she will live, and what she will do.

She said: “I love my grandparents, I feel good with them, but I understand that I need to go to university and I need to live with my father.” And then the conversation begins about the fact that “you and dad are together together, he also lost his mother, it doesn’t matter that they lived separately, but since you appeared, they loved each other. They say that there are no ex-wives, since he loves you, it means that he could not be indifferent to his mother.

You are great for keeping the attitude, you are both great and now you are support and support for each other. Of course, it's hard for him, and it's hard for you. And when you live together, it is very important that you really support each other and do not complicate an already difficult life. It's all temporary, and temporarily you can move anything. With any stepmother, with any attitude, it is not necessary to show external love, it is enough just to be correct. And you don’t impose it, it builds itself in the conversation, the person himself talks about it.

The hardest thing, of course, is to help elderly parents who have lost adult children find the meaning of why to live on. They understand that they will not be able to give birth anymore and what is the point of living out this life? And you do not live out, but live, because a loved one lived his life, he solved his problems and left, but you have not solved them yet, so you must live your life with dignity. worthy of memory loved one, remembering him.

A resource for older people could be, for example, the following: “What did your son or your daughter want, what did they want and what did they not have time for, what did they dream about, but can you do it instead of them in memory of them?” It can be anything: to organize a fund to help children, or to patronize someone, or to go to Paris, which her daughter wanted to see and could not. “Go see Paris through your daughter's eyes, wherever she wants to be,” and that becomes a powerful resource.

But you have to listen very carefully, to be in contact with the person. On the one hand, you must keep the boundary in order to hear a person and not merge with him in grief, and on the other hand, if you distance yourself from him, you will be useless to him. Because people in grief are very sensitive, if you sit next to him like a cold professional, no one will open up to you. With you, depending on their own reactions, they will be more or less polite or not polite, in different ways. But the person will not open up, which means that you will not be able to help him in any way. This is again professionalism, this is something that can be difficult for volunteers, volunteers. Why is it difficult for close people? Because they turn on emotionally, they grieve together in this field, and here you need to step back a little and look from the side.

At some point you really regret that you don't know further fate person. Because you emotionally intertwine with people, and you want everything to be fine with them. I would like to see that yes, he managed, overcame and lives. And why don't we meet, and the rescuers also don't meet with the victims? Because we were with them in the most difficult period of their lives. And it’s not that they didn’t want to remember it, anyway, they always think and remember. But when they see us, for them it's like throwing back into the nightmare that was. And it's very traumatic. And we do not take their addresses or phone numbers.