What should a polite person do? Basic rules of courtesy and etiquette

You study English, attend diligently (or study via Skype), learn words, listen English speech... But do not forget one very important aspect: In order to communicate successfully in an English-speaking environment, it is essential to understand .

In order to be favorably accepted in any society, whether it be a student group, a work environment, and indeed any random group of people who have gathered together, you just need to learn and remember forever a few simple rules that will provide you with an invaluable service in the future. Indeed, according to Cervantes, nothing is so precious and so cheap to us as courtesy!

Six "magic" words:

Please

Each of us is well aware that "please" is the magic word. However, often in everyday speech we forget about it, and quite in vain. When you ask someone for something, don't forget to add please: « Coffee, please!», « Could you please turn off your cell phone?» - and the world will become kinder.

thank you

Don't forget to thank people.« Thanks you!» - « you are welcome!» ("Thank you!" - "No thanks!") , probably the most frequently used phrases in English language. Don't skimp on gratitude and be sincere.

Sorry

As Sir Elton John sings « Sorry seems to be the hardest word», but do not forget to ask for forgiveness in time (unless, of course, there is something for it): stepped on someone's foot, collided with someone on the street ... Option « I’ m sorry» sounds even more polite.

Excuse me

Another way to ask for forgiveness if your fault is not so great, for example, you sneezed in public.

This is a very useful expression that will help you, for example, find out the way to the nearest metro station (« Excuse me, would you know where the nearest subway is?»).

good morning!

Do not forget about congratulations, because there are so many reasons for this:good morning, good night, happy birthday, happy New year, congratulations("Good morning", " Good night”,“ happy birthday ”,“ happy new year ”,“ congratulations ”) ...

In the morning at work, we can greet colleagues: « hey, good morning. how are you?» (“Good morning, how are you?”) - and do not forget to listen carefully to the answer: « Oh, pretty good. I" m fine. how are you?» (“Not bad, everything is fine. How about you?”)

We have listed six words that must be in the daily vocabulary of a polite person, and now let's move on to action!

So, six rules of polite behavior in an English-speaking society:

Smile, gentlemen!

"From a smile it will become brighter for everyone," that's why try to smile more often. This, however, does not mean that you need to smile all the time, but when meeting a person, you should smile, otherwise he will think that you are nervous, angry or upset about something. A smile signals that you are all right, "things go on and life is easy" and also about how pleasant the meeting is for you.

Avoid handshakes

It's more about business etiquette. a handshake is expected from you, and a strong, energetic one at that; hand must be dry. This is a rule of business etiquette and should not be neglected.

Cover your mouth when yawning, coughing or sneezing

Sometimes we yawn - when we want to sleep or we are bored ... If at this moment you are in public, be sure to cover your mouth with your palm.

If you are attacked by a cough, cover your mouth and turn away from those present. Recent trends in sanitation and hygiene dictate coughing into the crook of your elbow, because if you cover your mouth with your hand when you cough, you can transfer germs to another person when you shake hands.

Respect the queue

AT different corners world, there are many rules of behavior in queues. In English-speaking countries, you are expected to respect the order of precedence: you should not push, try to skip the queue, you just need to ask who is the last one (« Who" s last?») and stand behind him.

Hold the doors

When you walk through a door, remember to hold it in front of the person following you. And it doesn't really matter whether they thank you for it or not, because our common task is to make the world kinder!

Keep your distance

Foreigners often do not know about this phenomenon, but it is accepted in English-speaking countries. When you're in a crowd, your personal space gets narrower, of course, but usually people should not come closer to each other than at arm's length. Otherwise, the interlocutor may feel uncomfortable, move away, retreat in order to prevent your intrusion into his comfort zone. (« comfort zone») : for example, in the case of a man and a woman, it may seem to a woman that a man is showing excessive obsession.

Respect the inviolability of personal space, whether you are standing or sitting. For example, when placed in a meeting room, the extreme places at different ends of the room will be occupied first of all; as long as they remain in the hall vacancies, the participants of the event will not sit next to each other - this is an unwritten rule, which, however, is observed by everyone.

« Listen… Do you want to know a secret?..” And now - as promised, we will give you one invaluable advice. Don't be surprised, it's a bit unusual... We are talking about smells emanating from a person. So that society does not turn away from us (literally!) each of us must be 100% sure what comes from him nice smell: fresh breath (did you brush your teeth in the morning?), a light aroma of perfume, the absence of sharp foreign odors - “... and people will reach out to you!”

Do not forget to carefully monitor body hygiene, use deodorants and antiperspirants (the smell of sweat is absolutely unacceptable).

Also, take care of your clothes: in addition to being clean (of course), they should also not smell of anything else (tobacco, food aromas, etc.) - after all, even clean clothes easily absorb pungent odors. For example, when heading to, try not to go into the kitchen if your mom / wife / husband / roommate is cooking something smelly - it will be almost impossible to get rid of this smell until the next wash.

It is always a pleasure to communicate with a well-mannered, cultured, educated, polite person! A lot depends on our ability to behave in relation to other people in life, and often we do not understand or underestimate this. The circle of friends and acquaintances, reputation in the team, success in business, harmony in personal life - well-being in any of these areas, you see, largely depends on how we communicate and behave with other people.

Being polite is actually not always easy. Many of our entourage or even outsiders do not like us very much or frankly do not sympathize, often turmoil in personal life, fatigue, and stress prevent us from acting with restraint and adequately. But one of the most important qualities of a successful modern person is self-control and politeness. That is why it is so important that our children learn this from the very beginning. early childhood. A polite child will always be preferred to a rude and boorish one, even and especially when he grows up. And you need to strike while the iron is hot, that is, it is necessary to teach children the rules of politeness from an early age.

Rules of polite behavior and communication for children

The most universal, perhaps, the rule can be known to all: do to others the way you want others to do to you. But children do not always consciously want to be greeted or paid the slightest attention to them. However, one cannot do without this in the formation of politeness.

Perhaps it should start from the fact that explain to the child what politeness is, what polite children are and why it is better and even very important to be polite. Then gradually move on to practice and begin to apply the acquired knowledge in Everyday life. A very convenient help for parents are the rules of politeness for children in pictures, the rules of politeness for children in verse and many other publications, which today will not be very difficult to find and buy.

It is hardly possible to clearly state all the rules of polite behavior, point by point, because in almost every life situation or small episode you can behave in a certain way. But the starting point can be the study, understanding and application of the so-called magic words, the words of politeness: “hello”, “goodbye”, “thank you”, “thank you”, “sorry”, “permission”, “please”, “be kind " and so on. But you can use them in completely different situations. For example, apologies are asked not only when they act badly, wrongly, cause someone inconvenience or feel guilty about themselves. The word "sorry" can be both a request (for example, when trying to move forward in a large crowd of people or a desire to ask something), and a way to get attention (for example, by joining other people in a conversation).

Using verbal (that is, verbal) politeness tools will get better as you increase life experience child: the more he meets and communicates with other children and adults, the more he can practice.

The words of gratitude deserve special attention. You need to thank not only for the gifts or surprises provided, and this should be done even if the present was not to your liking. With words of gratitude, you need to respond to a compliment addressed to you, to a service or help provided. By the way, helping others is also a sign of politeness.

It is possible to be impolite/polite without even using those special words. The kid needs to be explained that it is unacceptable to call names, ridicule or invent nicknames for other people, focus on their shortcomings, express your displeasure or anger aloud. Instead, you should compliment others and express praise, note the merits and good qualities be able to listen and be interested in the personal affairs of others. For example, after answering a question posed to a child, how is he doing, it will be polite to ask his interlocutor about the same.

Even without saying a word (and often children do not want to respond to a greeting or goodbye), you can behave politely or ugly. A sincere smile in response can replace words that are sometimes so difficult to pronounce. The same smile in the appropriate situation can be completely inappropriate and speak of bad parenting.

A polite child should know and understand that others must be respected (especially adults and even more teachers), that one should not think only about oneself and one’s own comfort, that one should interrupt without emergency or shout, talk loudly in in public places- ugly, just like picking your nose or biting your nails.

There are many other rules of politeness, among which some more basic ones can be mentioned:

Always say hello first and return the greeting.
Smile, be in a good mood.
Don't interrupt when others are talking.
When you enter a closed door, knock.
When leaving a closed door, hold it with your hand.
When coughing or sneezing, cover your mouth with your hands.
Yawning or hiccupping during a conversation with the interlocutor, you need to apologize.
Ask permission if you're not sure about something.
Use the word "may": may I ask you? let me ask? let me pass?
Don't show that you're not interested.
Don't argue, avoid conflict.
Don't answer rudeness with rudeness.
Remember: a polite person will never intentionally offend another or create trouble for him.

There are many rules of courtesy for children and adults. But a child brought up in a cultured, educated family will feel many of them intuitively, even without special emphasis on them from adults.

How to Raise a Polite Child: Rules for Parents

Probably, many parents will agree that children learn bad things faster and easier than good ones. It is worth sending the baby to kindergarten or taking a walk in the yard near the “bad” company, as in the culture of the child’s behavior and communication there is already something to work on.

Meanwhile, the truth is also that no matter how we raise our children, they will still be like their parents. And this means that raising a child, teaching him polite communication and behavior does not make any sense if we ourselves act differently. Whether we like it or not, whether we notice it or not, children always copy their moms and dads, though not always to the same extent.

So the rules of politeness exist not only and not so much for children, as in the first place - for parents. And the most important, the most important of them is to be the best example for the child!

You can repeat to your child a thousand times that arguing and swearing is ugly and unworthy, but once you quarrel with the man who pushed you in the store, the child will take such behavior as a model. Learn to control your thoughts, emotions and actions in any situation and maintain a good tone of behavior, regardless of the situation. And, by the way, it is necessary to start with communication with the child: when addressing him, use words of politeness, have the patience to listen to the end and not interrupt, be able to ask for forgiveness and be sincerely grateful.

Trying to instill the rules in a child good manners, follow the recommendations that will help you achieve your desired goal and not get the opposite result:

From the first days of your communication with the baby, build warm, kindred, trusting relationship. Then you will be an authority for the child, he will listen to your instructions, will turn to you for help and advice.
Start teaching courtesy early age: even non-speaking children understand everything perfectly!
Use game form learning: role-playing games, reading thematic literature, discussing images or life situations.
Do not impose courtesy rules on children. Do not force them to act or speak in a certain way, do not scold them for "wrong" behavior, and do not shout.
Give a choice to do one way or another, but at the same time explain the advantages of one tactic and the disadvantages and consequences of another.
Explain why you should do this and not otherwise.
Do not proofread, scold, or lecture in front of other people.
Do not be ashamed because of the child's behavior and do not shame him. Focus on what should have been done, criticize the behavior, but in no case the child.
Always take into account the characteristics of the character and temperament of the baby, his mood and well-being. The personality of your child, his experiences should be above the rules established in society.
Praise for politeness and culture. Note how much you enjoy it.

Teaching children politeness should be unobtrusive, harmonious, bring mutual pleasure. In this process, not only the child is improved, but also the adult. Polite people find it easier mutual language and this is so important!

Especially for - Ekaterina Vlasenko

☁HOW TO BECOME POLITE. Simple Rules courtesy☁ Politeness is not only observance of the rules of behavior established by society. To be polite is to show a sense of tact, to have respect and delicacy towards other people, to be able to take into account their interests and needs. To become polite, you must follow the basic rules of courtesy: Treat people the way you want them to treat you, with due attention and respect. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and see what effect your words have. At the same time, do not forget about yourself, do not humiliate yourself: politeness must be shown with dignity. - Always keep your word, keep your promises, despite the obstacles that have arisen in front of you. Know how to listen and hear: respect the opinions of other people, even if it differs from yours. In a dispute, do not impose your point of view, know how to stop in time. - Many issues, such as personal life, nationality, religion, can put you and your interlocutors in an awkward position. Avoid criticism in conversation, both in relation to the interlocutor and in relation to other people. Learn to admit your mistakes. - Remember, the "magic" words ("thank you", "please", "sorry") are still relevant in our technological world, use them more often in communication in the family and with strangers, and you will notice how the attitude towards you will change. - Avoid rude, vulgar words, exclude sharp, accusatory notes from your behavior. Do not shout, speak softly, but at the same time confidently. This applies to both relations with the outside world and in the family - be polite and attentive with your relatives. - Observe the rules of conduct on the street, in public places, table etiquette. Be hospitable and friendly. AT public transport give way to elders, pregnant women, women with children. Skip them forward, holding the door when you enter the room. - Do not go to visit empty-handed, and also without an invitation or warning. Do not stay longer than expected, and when you say goodbye, do not forget to thank the host for the warm welcome. - Don't be rude at the wheel, let cars off the secondary road, don't use the signal without a good reason, apologize and thank you, take one parking space, don't chase the "irritant" ... - this will save your nerves and good mood surrounding. Always smile! Your smile will help you get out of even the most awkward situation with ease. Follow these rules every day until they become a habit, and then you can proudly consider yourself a polite person!

An episode in a supermarket was described: a cashier complimented the author's daughter for saying "thank you" when he handed her one of the items. “It is rare to see visitors good manners, - said the employee of the store, - and the parents themselves often show the greatest rudeness.

What used to be considered a sign of good taste began to lose importance. Being in public, we increasingly withdraw into ourselves and into electronic devices, not noticing what is happening around. Therefore, elderly people and pregnant women ride standing in minibuses, neighbors do not greet each other near the elevator, men do not hold doors in front of women, children interrupt adults without hesitation. Modern man acts for itself, therefore, first of all, it carries itself into this world.

Now adults often say: “We do not teach children to say hello or say “thank you” with the help of instructions. They will grow up - they will learn for themselves, what is the use of the phrase "say the magic word"? There is some truth in this: most likely, children will actually learn to say “please” and “thank you” with the help of kindergarten teachers and school teachers. But how much easier it will be for them to communicate with others if the habit of smiling when they meet, asking permission to take someone else's thing, to apologize when they hurt someone, from an early age will be the norm, and not labored words that must be pronounced, but do not want to.

It’s great when a child uses a knife and fork at dinner, knows not to talk with his mouth full, and doesn’t put his elbows on the table. But success in communicating with other people will most likely be determined not by table etiquette, but by how the child behaves on a universal human level, to what extent his manners correspond to generally accepted ones, and he himself fits into the environment.

Politeness is evidence that the child treats other people with sensitivity and respect. And here the boomerang law works: we treat another person the way he treats us. Therefore, a polite child in most cases will meet mutual kindness, and out of fashion magic words different doors will be opened for him.

An apple from an apple tree: 8 useful rules of courtesy

“Thank you” and “please” cannot be memorized like a multiplication table - brought to automatism, these words will not sound from the heart. The natural way to instill good manners in children is to set an example in your own daily reactions. Like our children look at us in a mirror. We thank the girl who gave the flyer on the street - and the next time the children will say "thank you" to the cashier who packed a box of Happy Meals for them. We ask permission to look at their drawings in the album, and children will not take their parent's phone without asking to take a picture of their craft. We apologize when we accidentally stepped on the baby's foot, and the child, inadvertently pushing a peer on the playground, will apologize for the awkwardness. How useful things adults can teach children?

Greet. Most parents teach kids to wave their hands and say “bye”, but the child will have to say hello no less often: with relatives, friends, neighbors, educators, sellers. Practice this useful skill with dolls and soft toys by playing "guests", "shop", "hospital". Be the first to say hello at first to provoke your child to answer you. Greet and smile at the janitor, the cashier, the doctors at the clinic, the taxi driver. Teach the boys to shake hands when you meet - for them this is a ritual of special importance.

Say "thank you". Children will be treated many times, give gifts, fulfill their requests. Remind them that it is customary to say “thank you” for a kind gesture. Thank yourself for the fact that the child brought his laundry to the laundry, helped to sort out the package of groceries, treated him with chocolate. While he is small, unable to speak, or shy of the guest who gave him balloon, each time you say “thank you” for the baby, without reproaching him for being silent.

Say "please". AT modern language this word is increasingly being reduced to a textual “pliz”, and until it becomes archaic at all, let the first “please” come from the parents. Politely asking the child to pass the sugar bowl or bread, adults demonstrate correct form requests. When playing in the sandbox, ask another kid for an extra spatula. When buying ice cream in the park, say "please" at the beginning of a sentence. Hearing a polite form of address many times, the child will begin to use it in his vocabulary. And you, when you hear “please” from the baby, hug and kiss him, this will give him good sign that he is doing everything right.

Say sorry. To make it easier for children to pronounce this not the easiest word in the world, be generous and forgive their mistakes with a light heart. Do not be afraid to apologize yourself if you understand that you undeservedly shouted or reacted too violently to a childish misconduct. So the child will understand that the word "sorry" is an important step towards reconciliation and building relationships with the one whom he offended, as well as a medicine for the one whom he inadvertently hurt.

Give in and help the weak. Give way to the check-in queue at the airport for a family with a baby, because it is more difficult for small ones to wait. Yield to a girl, mother, grandmother. Give way to elders in transport, hold the door for another person. Children may not guess what exactly needs to be done, but they love to help - whisper in their ear to help grandma carry a bag of groceries to the refrigerator, cut off the first piece of cake for her. Gratitude from another person is sure to inspire the child.

Do not discuss others in public. What parent has not been in a situation where a child, seeing a person with a different skin color or appearance for the first time, points a finger at him and loudly asks why his uncle has such a dark complexion or no hair. Agree that if the child is interested in something about passers-by, he can ask his question quietly, without attracting the attention of others. Explain that discussing the appearance of other people out loud is not accepted: it may be unpleasant for them. But always focus on how interesting it is when people look different.

Don't interrupt. One of key points conversations - let the other person finish the sentence before responding with their own line. It is important to adhere to this rule both in relation to dialogues with children, and to expect mutual respect from them when you are busy or talking with another adult. Come up with a sign by which the baby can attract your attention: touch your elbow, wave your hand, gently squeeze your palm - so that you immediately understand that he wants to tell you something, and can come up when you are free. When that moment comes, listen to the child's request with full attention.

Respect the rules of the other house. It is important to explain to children that every place outside your home has different rules of conduct. They don’t scream or run in the theater and restaurant, but on the playground or in the play maze - please. At home, you can talk in any voice you like, but in the clinic it is better to lower the tone. It is allowed to jump on the bed in your room, but you can do it at a party only if the owners themselves allowed it.

What is all this for? It's no secret that children with good manners find it easier to adapt to kindergarten and school, to follow the rules adopted in the collectives. With them it is easy to go to visit and cafe, visit social events without risk, constantly make sure that they do not spoil something and do not interfere with other people's rest. But with a polite child, it is easier not only for others. First of all, he himself feels at ease everywhere, because he has a habit of thinking about the feelings of others and about what he says. And this habit comes from the parental home, in which the main thing is not the motto "do as I say", but the example of adults - "do as I do."

Politeness is a mandatory sign of a well-mannered person. It manifests itself in the ability to communicate in a beautiful, competent, and most importantly, friendly language with people. different ages and professions. What are the main qualities of a polite person?

3 rules for polite people

The development of one's own personality is impossible without observing the generally accepted and etiquette that everyone should know.

A polite person does not forget to say at a meeting. He also always says goodbye when parting, apologizes if he caused someone inconvenience and thanks for any services rendered to him.
Another sign of politeness is the ability to treat others with respect, regardless of their social status. Courtesy and benevolence should be shown not only to elders in age or rank, but also to colleagues, subordinates, as well as to people who have not been able to realize themselves in life.
A cultured and polite person does not harm others. He treats requests with due attention, is always ready to help and does not participate in gossip. He does not forget to smile, because a courteous smile is the key to success in many things.

Rudeness and incontinence always repels interlocutors and becomes a serious obstacle in achieving the desired goals. Those who choose this format of communication find it difficult to make friends, earn the respect of others, and even achieve success in their careers.

How to be a polite person

Beautiful grammatically correct speech is an indispensable companion of politeness. You need to be able to control your voice. He should be calm, reasonable and not very loud. must be excluded from vocabulary foul language, name-calling, as well as slang expressions. The development of politeness is facilitated by the study of books on the rules of etiquette and reading classical literature. You should never interrupt your interlocutor - this is tactless. Do not forget that both sides have the same right to speak. This is called dialogue.

Courtesy for all occasions

It is important to be cultural and friendly always and everywhere, whether it's a business meeting or a simple trip to visit or shop. Below are examples of polite behavior in various everyday situations.

Behavior at the table during meals can say a lot about the upbringing of a person. The main rule in table etiquette is not to bring inconvenience to others. That is, you should chew with your mouth closed, do not put your elbows on the countertop and avoid activities that are not related to eating. You can not get up and bend over the table to reach for bread or a plate. You should ask the one who is closer to move the desired treat.

A polite person respects nature. He will not throw waste after a picnic at the place where he rested or throw garbage past the bin in the city. wishing to develop their inner world never leave dirt behind.

We must not forget about courtesy and at home in the circle of loved ones. Criticism, commanding tone and harsh words can hurt feelings. Knowing this, a polite person will not hurt other people, especially loved ones.

True politeness is formed not only from memorized beautiful phrases. It characterizes the lifestyle and personifies the person.

What polite words are there in Russian

The Russian language is powerful and multifaceted. Since ancient times great importance it is given in it to various courtesies and polite words. These include greetings: "hello" or "good afternoon." Farewells: "goodbye", "see you soon", "good night". Requests: “be kind,” “please excuse me,” “won’t you be so kind.” Expressions of gratitude: "thank you", "thank you". Wishes: "be healthy", "success", "happy journey".

The daily use of these words in your vocabulary speaks of good manners and high morality.

Polite child. How to bring him up?

It is necessary to teach a child to be polite from an early age, when he is just starting to speak. There are a few tips to help you get it right.

Small children love to play. They don't like to learn boring rules. Therefore, you can instill in them good manners in the form of a game. For example, arrange a tea party according to all the rules of etiquette with the participation of toys and, of course, parents. You can act out polite dialogues that you need to use when surrounded by strangers or come up with other situations.

Parents, when talking to each other and to their child, should use polite words. An imperative tone and screams with a baby are unacceptable, even if he does not obey. He must do what is asked of him, for example, collect toys, but at the gentle request of mom or dad.

If a child shows a clear protest, is rude, demands to give him what is impossible, you should not respond to such behavior, and even more so encourage him. It is better to put on a mask of indifference and completely ignore the screams until they subside. Do this every time until the baby speaks politely and calmly.

First of all, the rules of polite people must be observed by the parents themselves. They should by their example show the baby what culture, restraint and respect mean. Raising a child is impossible without a safe environment in the house.

How is male politeness manifested

AT modern world polite behavior is often regarded by members of the opposite sex as flirting. This applies to both women and men. To avoid getting into an awkward situation due to ignorance elementary rules etiquette, you need to be able to distinguish sympathy from the limits of decency.

For example, a man always holds an open door in front of a woman and lets her go ahead. He helps the lady get out of the car, kisses the hand at the meeting, takes off his hat, gives way to a place in public transport. At the exit from the room, he gives her outer clothing or helps to take it off at the entrance. Representatives of the stronger sex are required to carry weights instead of women, regardless of the closeness of their relationship.

An intelligent man will never talk to a companion about her age, character flaws or appearance. He will not raise topics that will be offensive or unpleasant to her. And also will not come to the meeting in an inappropriate appearance.

The Benefits of Being Polite

Politeness brings up in a person many such as compassion, mercy, accuracy and self-respect. Each of them plays big role in personal growth and even destiny.

All doors open before a well-mannered person, because he knows how to control himself under any circumstances, has a subtle and sensitive mental organization, and also has a sober and clear mind. He generously gives warmth and joy from communicating with him, which helps him take his rightful place in society. And it's far from full list evidence that it is good to be a polite person.